We all travel through life with baggage, but as a grown-up, it is our job to take responsibility for our emotional state. We are responsible for every area of our life, including feeling that we carry with us daily. Our emotional baggage evolves from negative experiences that are painful, and from harmful interactions that cause anger, fear and…a significant emotional reaction within us.
What is emotional baggage? It is painful memories, mistrust and hurt carried around by a person from their past —react to challenging situations like dealing with the parent who was not there for you or letting go of an ex that hurt you to your heart.
How much of emotional baggage do most of us carry around? Everybody has emotional baggage as sometimes the past inner baggage can flow out to be outer baggage in the present. Although some have more than another, some of us might have several big bags of baggage, and others may have just one tiny bag… but we all have them. Through this emotional baggage, most of us feel as if we are carrying a lifetime’s heaviest of regrets, anger, and pain.
Emotional baggage can cloud your judgment as they are very unreliable and are based on complete irrationality. They left you trapped in the past by the unhappy remainder of your own bad choices — like thinking you are not too drunk to drive home or trying to hold on to an unhealthy relationship because you are afraid you cannot do better. Sometimes bad decisions are made because we are a person who makes them on a regular basis, and the brain does not forget the bad choices you have made in the past.
Emotional baggage is stimulated by negative feelings that leave you thinking— “My life is not fair,” “”Why are things like this always happen to me,” “It is not my fault,” and “How did I end up like this?” These underlying feelings are direct emotional reactions that can lead to a desire to act out. Whether you know it or not you have the power to overcome this negative baggage from knowing where it stems from and the desire to manage painful emotions by committing to behaving differently.
For a moment, let’s look at negative feeling that we feared, the one that follows us, and lead to reaction of emotional baggage.
• You expect and look for the worst: when you focus mainly on the negative outcomes and fail to give attention to the possibility of a positive outcome, we are left open for emotional baggage.
• You act on instinct: When you fail to stop, and think, but act quickly, without considering the consequences of your actions. You are willing to expend to push some emotional rock up, which will lead to an emotional outburst.
• You allow yourself to cling to fear: that is not good because fear is one of the three strongest emotional drivers.
• We play the victim: If we want the power to get past the past emotional baggage, we must get rid of false pride because it comes between higher thought and an empowering choice.
• You disregard good advice: You must take a hard look at your habits of thinking and decision you are making because a false sense of worth limits us from receiving help from encouraging input.
To the degree that you stop all the above, you will be stuck at a standstill because these negative feelings will continue to outline who you are, the way you think, the choices you make and the actions you take if you allow them.
There are two main types of emotional baggage in a person’s life which include what he or she are aware of (excess), and what he or she are not aware of (hidden). The first baggage comes with what a person’s eye sees, but he or she chooses not to acknowledge the problem at hand. Moreover, the other baggage is the individual decided to ignore what the eyes see for some reason he or she are allowing it to interfere with his or her life, relationships, and future.
Hidden baggage, sometimes it is easy to get a false sense of security about something you may not be aware of, or if you are aware it can be easy to think that you will not be exposed and that is equally dangerous because it can sneak up on you and ambush you out of nowhere. Hidden baggage is full of tricks and can trap you into things that trigger emotional baggage like putting up with a job that works you countless hours for low wages and no appreciation. It will allow you to think a selfish person is your best friend who thinks only of his or herself.
Take a reality check
The best thing for all of us and a good start toward addressing your baggage is to carry a lighter load, which begin with tackling your baggage with a present-day reality check. When you allow your emotional baggage to lead your life are they through immediate reaction to an experience that draws anger, fear or sadness? Stop, think and analyze all your emotional feeling. Why did you react, what made you upset? Was it a fearful, humiliated or shocking event that took you by surprise? Did you overreact by what someone said or because the situation might come into effect in your life now? Alternatively, maybe the words that were said triggered something from your past. Could it be that they are painful to experience from the past that will cause you to feel or react out of proportion in fear it will affect you today?
Three Steps Process to Get Rid of Emotional Baggage & Face Your Fears Daily
- Write an open list of the thoughts and behaviors that will build better habits and not weigh you down.
- Put forth an effort to find at least one positive experience in each hurtful experience in your life
- Focus on creating affirmations to encourage a must needed change and counteract all negative thoughts.
Time to Let It Go!
Getting past old injustices and hurts isn’t easy, and it has a way of creeping back in your life time and time again. It is heart-tappingly easy to get trapped in the darkness of bad recalls, as it can take a radical change to get past yesterday emotional baggage. Here’s how.
First, take a close look at your life. The past has a way of trapping us through painful unexamined past hurts that clutter our mind and spill over on every corner and tabletop. It can be commandeered to your be lost in thought, obsessive to the mind to replay old losses, past injustices, nagging guilts and elbowing out the new and all the possibilities. My advice and strong urge to whoever is reading this article, take the time to right all wrongs that can never be erased, revisit any hurt from which visit you from time to time, let go of any cling to lost love, or any pain from someone else’s lies —they are emotional quicksand that will exert a strong downward pull on the soul.