How You May Appear Unattractive and Not Know It!

unattractiveI think of myself as a pleasant and fair person, a kind person who is loving and giving to everyone and a people person. I have been teaching my children, the beauty of an individual is not in a facial mole, but true beauty inside a person. Teaching character traits are an ongoing process, and there are character traits to avoid because they are unhealthy habits.

As children, we all learn our personality from the people around us, if we grow up with high self-esteem, it’s plays a considerable influence in determining the type of adult that child will eventually become. However, if we grow up with low self-esteem and being rude and get a reputation for it, this feeling of being “tainted” can be carried into adulthood.

Confucius said, “Everything has its beauty, but not everyone sees it.” We all are familiar with the Proverbs beauty is only skin deep, the world is full of beautiful people, but being a beautiful person is not only in the skin, but beautiful is also in the eye of the beholder and comes from within.

If you would just take a scroll through a model’s portfolio, or just look around – the world is full of beautiful people. However, true beauty is a rare and seldom recognized by the individual who possesses it. In fact, the most impressive feature in the world – is a unique kind of beauty, the one that you cannot see.

Some people may seem unappealing to others by their selfish behavior, cockiness, and arrogance during interactions with others and not know it. Everyone should strive to be a noble, kind, caring and compassionate person because We all want to be loved, but what feels good to us is feeling the love. There are many ‘unhealthy habits’ that people have that make them seem unattractive and annoying, and it is hard for them to know they have fallen off the attractive wagon. A person’s behavior can make him or her unattractive because attractiveness does not only come from outside, it comes from within, too.

It is sometimes hard to know how unattractive you are when you are so focused on yourself. It is even more difficult to know when you’ve fallen off the attractive wagon. If you wonder Why? It is normally because when a person lets his or herself go, people are not going to be inclined to tell him or her to their face that they are heading towards that unattractive territory. Also, when a person is not aware that they are acting in an unpleasant way… a manner that is so unattractive, they forget that attractiveness is not just what is seen with the eyes, it is also what we feel with our hearts and souls.

When a person starts to look unattractive, people might hint, but more often they will feel uncomfortable telling them. That is why a person is responsible for being self-aware and present always. When a beautiful girl is around an ugly person, she feels prettier around them, and when an ugly girl is around an attractive person, she feels uglier. Moreover, if you think about it, even a walk down the street and meeting the wrong person can change the way you think about your look. It is more likely because our brains have a built-in tracker that never stops gathering data.

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If someone doesn’t appreciate your presence, make them appreciate your absence!

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A person who cannot appreciate an individual who is nice nor appreciate his or her values, and worth does not deserve to have the privilege of their presence. All the same, being nice to others should be the way we all live and behave. Unfortunately, it is not always the case, and people who are over-giver or nice to other are taken for granted. If you spend most of your life allowing people to take advantage of your niceness, it is time you stop ranting and raving because even when you yell it all to no avail; it is time to put on a firm attitude. It is okay to be a good guy or girl, but a person who is friendly one-day, sulks and withdraws the next means he or she need boundaries. Set some ground rules to use your discretion and firm up whenever it is required.

An over-giver and a nice person are someone a self- centered person will never appreciate and they do not deserve to have the privilege of their presence. Self-centered people know the things that will make them happy, but they do not always know what they have with a friend until they are gone. When a selfish person is too busy being blind to appreciate, your presence grants them the absent they deserve and befriend somebody who will maintain an even balance of you; a matcher. After all, people who are often blind to the truth have not gained the knowledge to see themselves objectively.

Are You an Over-Giver? A Person Who Give Too Much

The number one question is, are you an over-giver who gives too much? Let’s define an over-giver? What is an over-giver? An over-giver is one who gives, and give and give and give and even when not able they give some more, ones who gives too much. It is not that giving is a ‘bad thing’ – it is far from that – but giving when you do not have usually bring great harm and No value to you. On the contrary, although giving can be a ‘good thing,’ it is a ‘bad thing’ when a person gives to ‘keep’ people around him or her. An individual who gives too much do not have limits or have not set boundaries. He or she generally gives too much in the wrong situations and to the wrong people who will only step all over them like a doormat.

If you’re an over-giver and wondering where to start in stopping, it’s time you begin the search to stop doing these dodgy preventative measures. Moreover, since it no way to go cold turkey all at once but you need to stop over-giving immediately, you can start with reducing, but bear in mind when you’re over-giving you are giving away your self-esteem and dignity, and when you are giving it away, you’re giving too much. Also, know, if you’re giving with a view that the other person will attribute the same value that you do to your giving, you are in search of an ‘unfavorable outcomes,’ and all your excessive giving only means, you’re giving too much.

Now that you in search of a solution, the most valuable thing that you can do for yourself is to set boundaries and start making sure that you get love and respect from everyone that are around you. Now that you have set limitations and withhold giving too much to other people they will not regard you as a useful, valuable contributor anymore. That may leave you feeling ‘scared’ now that you are thinking of stop giving. It also may leave you wonder where to go from ‘here.’ More than likely you are feeling ‘bad’ about stop giving, and at times it may be hard to say NO. Besides, you might even feel guilty as if Good People don’t suppose to say no, you may find yourself feeling as if you are letting other’s down by walk away.

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How I prevent myself from moving into a shell due to past miseries

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When I found myself unhappy with my life, I lost myself in the daily flow of living; I faced such phases of life wherein I got terribly hurt by people and life overall. On the contrary… that never lead me to withdraw myself from the world. I began to live in the flow of experience and faced and accepted emotional hurt as a challenge of life. Apparently, I have gone through loads of such emotional turmoil too. But all those hurts and unfortunate events have converted me into a more self-confident and self-sufficient woman, as I am today.

Once you are self-confident, you realize yourself what you want from life. Then you distinguish that you fear what you don’t understand, and you know nothing can then scare you or rule your life anymore. You learn to pamper yourself and let the positive energy flow into your life which helps to transform you into a more confident and self-controlled human being. Before I became a confident and self-sufficient woman as I am now the fear of uncertainty change me into someone I didn’t know, a shell of my former self.

It was a phase when I hit rock bottom, and it became the solid foundation, on which I had to restructure my life. By hitting rock bottom, I learn to face each of life’s challenges quite sportingly. Life’s challenges have taught me to let my strengths overshadow my weaknesses and to overcome and rebuild my life after hitting rock bottom. Sinking to my lowest self-was the first eye opener for me that provided me the strength to find the energy I needed to restart my life. Falling to my most depressed self helped me to let go of the feelings that were bothering me.

After letting go of the feeling, that was affecting me; I finally could acknowledge my situation and started to practice the ways of self-realization. It’s hard to escape depression when it takes over the mind, but when I let go of the past and start “living in the moment” it taught me how to let nothing directs me in the wrong direction but to view my mistakes as a catalog of past failures.

This made it so much easier for me to figure out what I was looking for from life in general. After learning, I had to deal with uncertainty, or it will beat me down.

It felt as if life was placed to pause for a moment. I received that one lucky break I needed to start replenishing my life, and I grab a hold told advantage of that opportunity and became my own boss once again.

I transformed from a “victim mentality” to a “creator.” I am now connected to my inner self. I can now figure out things which generally I could not earlier, and I am also able to perform well. From now onwards I have control over everything in my life even on things on which I had no control once. I learn that getting hurt is an integral part of any life. We all have gone through critical phases at one point of time or the other.

It gets tough to accept the miseries and pains of life that easily as well. While you are searching for the right path after getting hurt on and on in life, you need to first come out of all your past horrible memories. Life is a roller coaster ride. You will find both ups and downs prevailing in life and your sad moments will always be a painful memory of yours.

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I have decided to choose love over hate!

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In honor of Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr I too have decided to choose love over hate, for loves brings about a better world, and I know that love is … initially the best answer to humanity in finding peace as I know that hate is too much weight to carry. Know that through violence it only brings emotional bosh, but with peace, we accomplish so much more like seeking the highest good as being concerned about sisterhood and brotherhood.

And so, I say to my friends today, when we choose violence, it only leads to darkness and a country that is divided moving in the wrong direction. On the contrary, those who decide to choose love over hate it leads to an open road that advantages to a greater path.

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The Rise & Fall; Rise Strong!

rise-nekson-mandellaWhat defines us is how well we rise after falling. “The greatest glory in living lies not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.”– Nelson Mandela So, take the time to learn the lessons that life throws your way, not seeing what’s right in front of you stem from one place; the obstacles you didn’t know were there because you were not paying attention

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Lover’s Guide How to Survive Your First Vacation as a Couple!

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The Holiday season are upon us and the holidays is designed for love so, imagine the peace, romance, and love in the air. The holiday celebrates romance, love, and companionship. For some couples, a romantic vacation can bring them closer together and for others, traveling together can adhesive or unravel a relationship. The first thing couples need to know is that all couples are all on their best behavior early in relationships.

Therefore, it is best to know just because a couple gets along great at home does not mean they will have the best first vacation. Couples need to understand the fact that being willing to compromise and having a good understanding, bout what they want and expect from the trip, will make sure they are ready for a romantic vacation.

Traveling with a partner can be both rewarding and a test the limits experience. The challenging part is the ties of two people confronted with new cities, beliefs, and disagreements. So, if you want to come back with a healthy relationship it best to know ways to prevent the most common sources of friction when traveling as a couple.

A couple needs to understand the fact that having a good understanding, being willing to compromise and talk about what they want and expect from the trip, will make sure the relationship is ready for the next big step. For the couples who are willing to take that big step and go on their first vacation, here is a lover’s guide on how to survive your first vacation together as a couple.

Know your significant other

There’s an adage that a vacation will make or break a relationship and you do not want to take the risk of finding out whether it true or false. Don’t be caught being unprepared without the ultimate lover’s guide that will teach you how to survive your first vacation as a couple. To better illustrate how travel can make or break relationships, know there’s nothing more fulfilling than love is in the air and making memories to last a lifetime with your significant other.

The fact that couples have a disagreement does not mean their vacation cannot be a rewarding one, but it is pure torture to realize a few days into a vacation that you are stuck with someone you cannot stand traveling with. To ensure the things that irritate you at home does not prevent you from being two peas in a pod that can build a throne out of bayonets and face the challenges on the road make sure you know each other.

Set a realistic budget

The saying that “Money is the root of all evil” has a point, and nothing unravels a romantic vacation as quickly as disagreeing over the budgets. So, making provisions and agreeing on a budget before leaving on the vacation is a good idea so there are no surprises, and no problems. Generally, it’ll need to equal your desired lifestyle.

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Five Must Have Tech Gadgets & Accessories No one Should Travel Without!

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When it comes to traveling it is best to be prepared, and it is imperative to know what to take with you to be ready in case an emergency occurs. Some people travel for a living and traveling for a living can be an exciting way to make money. Traveling requires the use of high-tech gear that will help you stay connected and productive, especially if you are traveling for business. Whether you are traveling by train, plane, automobile or your two feet, the right gadgets make the journey pain-free and complete.

As more people have the demand for traveling, whether it for business or pleasure, one of the most hassles in traveling is an individual cannot take the home or office with them.  Moreover, if you want to make your trip go smoother without much baggage, make sure to travel with the right accessories and gadgets that will seriously change your trip. As. If you are a business owner who travels a lot, don’t worry technology firms have covered all the stops to make sure all travelers needs are met.

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For the business owner who is often out of the office, then it is best to invest in some travel necessities besides your cell phone, cell phone charger or laptop. You need a flexible gadget that can be remote controlled and the one you just can’t live without; they help you run your business. To lighten your load as well as overcome packing-induced stress, why not go with travel accessories that are essential to any trip. A busy business owner who travel a lot. You are someone that carries your life in a suitcase; it is essential to make that load a little lighter and more organized.

 

Here are nine must-have gadgets & accessories every business traveler should travel with.

Gadget #1 Emergency Phone Charger: When you travel a lot you need to keep your phone alive when no electricity is available. Just when you need your cell phone the most, it could decrease the ability to make a call or to retrieve a friend’s or family member’s phone number. A dead cell phone can cause many issues, but if you invest in an emergency charger that don’t rely on working electricity to recharge it everything are taken off hold.  I suggest an Eton Boost Turbine 4000 emergency phone charger that can come in handy, one that can be used to generate power even with no electricity. It a smallish rectangle charger that is easy to carry that works with a hand crank and has a large internal battery (4000mAH) that can be used to generate power under any condition.

Gadget #2 Flashlights: If you ever find yourself in an awkward position like a flat tire while traveling at night, a flashlight can easily be handy. Even if it a power outage, a flashlight is light handy. Nonetheless, it is best to choose a solar energy or hand eccentric flashlight that offer durability that you can rely on and does not depend on batteries.

 

Gadget #3 Noise Cancelling Headphones: While traveling, on bus, train especially while flying on a plane, a noise cancelling headphone is perfect for tuning out any outside noises. When it comes to noise-cancelling headphones, there are two types to invest in active and passive. Active noise cancellation includes some interesting processes to cancel out sound in which its goal is to hear nothing but whatever you’re listening to. Passive cancelling headphones involves closing your ears off to the world outside so you can knuckle down to relaxation or catching up to work on your laptop.

Gadget #4: The MSR MIOX Water Purifier-Travel Forum. If you are a hiker or love being in the mountains, and you are looking for a way to treat large amounts of water at a time, the MSR MIOX water filter purifier comes in handy. Also, it kills the nasty bugs, bacteria, virus and even if you prefer not to drink animal wastes in river water while hiking and on the go, MSR MIOX water filter is a good water purifiers

Gadget #5 Power strip: For the business person who needs to charge different gadgets at the same time, the Inland’s 8-Outlet Metal Power Strip is the afore mentioned travel gadget that is the essential one that is built to handle whatever require of it and you should consider bringing it along when you are traveling.

If you’re traveling by a car or even by air plane, the last thing you need is to be weighed down by a heavy gadget. Apart from these gadgets there are other gadgets that petition to make a trip more comfortable. But the trick is to know which gadget you definitely should take with you. I suggest you take the gadget that can be most convenient, the ones you must have and the one that can assist you with having the most fun.

J.R. Smith Is the Perfect Cleveland Athlete!

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J. R. Smith, the twelve-year veteran of the National Basketball Association recently resigned with the Cleveland Cavaliers after sitting out most of the training camp. I personally feel that it was a wise choice because Cleveland now has all their starting pieces back in place to defend their title. Smith has proven his worth to the coach and the team repeatedly with his defensive prowess and ability to successfully ‘launch away threes’ at the most appropriate times.

As a big fan of J R Smith, I am extremely happy he came to an agreement with Cleveland so he can use those great shooting and defense abilities to help the team and play a crucial role in their effort to repeating as NBA champions. Hopefully bringing Smith back as a major contributor will be as rewarding as it was last season when he helped the Cavs bring a major sports championship to Cleveland for the first time since 1964. He has not only become one of the Cavs most valuable players but one of the most popular among the fan base as well. The fans and his teammates have given Smith the adorable nickname “Swish” from when he proudly displayed the tattoo when he went shirtless in the team’s championship parade last June.

Smith has been judged guilty of some of the league’s most unpredictable gratifications and diversions, both off and on the court. He has been looked upon as a being a rowdy child that transformed into playing with a lot more maturity and dependability since joining Cleveland. He’s also shown abilities that simply weren’t there for much of his career. During the championship run his passing skills had a way of both captivating and confusing the fans, coaches and even his teammates. It also shows that he doesn’t want to be a distraction in Cleveland and has become devoted to being a better player.

J.R. Smith is one of the Basketball’s most professional players in the league. It is so because he can hit the floor, throw a landing three-pointers and play strong defense. One can’t help but wonder if Smith’s career would be even more establish if he had hooked up with King James years before. After all, King James called Smith “a model citizen” earlier in the preseason.

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“All Too Often” – Three Little Words We Say Too Often!

3-little-words-we-say-too-oftenall-too-often-haveI find among our human race, too many people use phrases that are overused that are annoying to hear sometimes. However, most people number one pet peeve is how people overuse the phrase and continually allow it to happen too much. Among the phase is the word “All too often” or “Too often.” All too often are bad habits that we get used to doing the same way too much. If we all reduce the use of these words, it will become less and less frequent over time. Don’t let this happen to you; they can be broken if you work at them.

Many find themselves saying three little words: “All too often.” “All too often” is another way of saying “too often.” What is the definition of “All too often?” The dictionary defines it as a phase that used for saying that makes people sad, or upset because it happens more often than it should. Also, “All too often” is used to emphasize a negative point. It is not a phrase to use to effective communicate with others.

All too often…we underestimate the dominance of a hug, a generous word, a smile, a listening ear, a sincere compliment, or the tiniest act of caring, all the qualities of which have the power to transform lives. We all need to know someone cares, and we all need to be loved. Also, we need to love another. Moreover, we need friends who can be honest with us, tolerate us and even face with us the reality of our powerlessness. There is no doubt that without acquaintances, we too, would be like the infant who is left alone, we would cease to develop.

All too often…we speed along with life’s responsibilities and fail to take the time to meet the obligation because we are not equipped to manage everyday tasks. But what we do know is the future requires assistance because it does not take care of itself. Some people are busy trying to find beneficial ways of fulfilling duties that should not have to be done at all. Much depends on people knowing what requirements means as there is no progress in finding a valuable way to do a useless accountability. Never seek after the sages of the past as a person who doesn’t give life his everything does not become successful. A human who makes it a point to seek after what scholars work toward. Joy in abundance.

All too often…we forget that we have all the benefits of being a part of God’s family. Moreover, we are blessed beyond measurement. God’s resources are boundless. His prosperity is infinite. As God’s children, we are his heirs and all that God has belonged to us. For that reason, we hold the map that guides our two feet down the right path. We were blessed with two eyes to see our passageway, a mind to navigate, and when we encounter problems on the journey we can cast all of our fears in Gods care for He will always be there for us.

All too often…behind many smiles is a hurting heart as they smile like nothing is wrong. While behind their laughter’s are hurt and emptiness. Nonetheless, if you look closely, you will see they smile instead of crying trying to keep others from seeing them in the midst of falling apart. Know just because a person’s eyes don’t show tears, doesn’t mean his or her heart doesn’t hurt or feel. Moreover, just because an individual comes off strong, doesn’t mean that they don’t feel pain. When actually they are feeling an enormous amount of ache as they also feel so alone and that almost everything is going wrong.

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Should you wash new clothes before wearing them? Here’s the Verdict!

importance-washing-new-clothes-fbMost of us are guilty of purchasing a new dress, a pair of pants or a shirt from a retail store and wearing before washing them. This is a very shared, and typical reaction of most people as many fabrics appear pristine when they are brand new hanging on the rack. For that reason, many assume the clothes are clean, but some disturbing compounds are lurking on the fabric. Moreover, this is merely one important reason to consider washing before wearing.

First and foremost, just because a blouse looks faultless and a dress or pair pants look elegant and white hanging in the store, does that means you should not wash them before wearing? Could there be hidden toxic in new clothes? Are we making ourselves sick because we wear new clothes before washing them? I advise all to ensure everything is good and wash through with non-toxic laundry detergent and water before wearing.

The answer to each question is “Yes,” the saying “wash and wear” is an awareness that consumers should always take serious, and it is of significance for new clothing. Whether you take the saying accurate or not it best to take the time to think about who might have tried on the item of new clothing in the store before you purchase them. The answer also rests on how you feel about catching a rash, possible feeling itching or being put at risk of contracting a disease.

The saying “wash and wear” is a perception that shoppers should always consider as straight-talking, although people can’t listen to all proverb, in reality, the saying “wash and wear” is right for washing new clothing. Whether you take the saying as accurate or not it best to take time to wash new clothes before wearing them. For a reason the retail clerk return items, people wear with the tag on it and revert to the rack before you purchase them.

Although some may feel like they should wash new clothes “occasionally” or it only applies to certain items rather than risk the possible of hidden toxic sources in new clothes, an allergic reaction or getting an irritated rash take precaution by always washing new clothes before you wear them. Also, let’s keep in mind that the dressing rooms are a breeding ground for lice, bacteria, and fungus. Furthermore, just because a dress, blouse, skirt, shirt or pants look very nice hanging in a department store on a rack does not mean it clean and safe to wear the item before dry cleaning or washing it.

People purchase new clothes and automatic feel it is safe to wear them before washing them. They do not consider the germs and hidden toxic that are hiding out in the fabric. According to clothing industrial expert, Lana Hogue, “It is mandatory to wash new clothes before wearing them. Moreover, sometimes it best to wash clothes twice before wearing. Especially garments that are right next to the skin or appeal that you will perspire on. Did you know sweating open your pores? The perspiring allows the skin to absorb the hazard chemical from the clothes into your skin. Greenpeace chemicals expert Manfred Santen shared, “chemicals can be found in everything from exclusive luxury designs to budget fashion.”

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