‘One Moment In Time’

backgroundEach time that I’m blessed to see a new day and to overcome different trials present me with an opportunity to look forward to the day when I can look back on life’s challenges and smile through my worry and gather strength from my pain. Gaining life’s experience are what makes life fascinating; overcoming challenges is what makes life significant and that one moment in time is what will free me to break these shackles from my feet that are holding me down. I will be my authentic self to realize wake up and recognize I am no longer distress; I can listen to my true self over my ego when they don’t agree.

As we are all aware of the fact that we have only one life to live and we should do our best to live it to the fullest. Start by understanding the things we endure in this world is temporary. Whether you are experiencing a good or bad life each is temporary, so, when you are living your best life enjoy it. Moreover, when life is challenging you and makes you feel you at your worst, don’t allow the trials to get the best of you, know you will get through it. There is a lesson in the tests you are going through as life is full of ups and downs, understanding the entire worth of your hardships is the key to appreciating and overcoming adversity.

 

“The two hardest tests on the spiritual road are the patience to wait for the right moment and the courage not to be disappointed with what we encounter.” ― Paulo Coelho, Veronika Decides to Die

 

This world consists of so many trials until it’s hard to find the right moment to relax, let the stress go, and live in the moment. Life isn’t always beautiful; in fact, sometimes life is just plain hard. Furthermore, we’ve all had bad days (and maybe even years) where trouble just seems to follow us. For that reason, we need a break, where life leads us away from all problems to the Happily ever after time. Where it’s okay for us to be human with no expectation and no obsessing to be love, but proceed to ensure you enjoy being in the moment, so every second count rather than trying to be validated from those around you.

I’ve had long seasons of life where I felt as if it weren’t for bad luck, I could live that moment in time where I get to be me. Days where I can enjoy that great moment in time that releases me from struggles, getting knocked down and have the wind knocked out of me, transform me where I can be the best I can be. Every day consisted of the beautiful sunshine and NO rains or winter days. A moment in time that will change my lives forever where my best days repeat, and I could make time stand still. Then I know I can live this glorious moment forever.

Do you know how damaging it can be to have so much wrong going on in one person’s life? Though, bad things happen, unfortunate things can happen to anyone. Cruel stuff like getting an injury on the job and it, not your fault but to be treated as if it is. Betrayal from friends and loved ones. Things that bad for your mood like the car breaking down at the worst moment, bills due and not enough money to pay them all. Even more unwanted things like lying awake for most of the night full of thought when you need to be sleeping and losing the love of your life to death where it’s hard to know how to continue living; all these trials make the person experience these challenges desperate for just one moment in time.

When I speak of that one moment in time, I am talking about that moment where you are the ultimate winner, the shining star, someone who knows how to seize that one moment in time. A time where everything is going your way, and nothing and no one on this Earth can affect or take that achievement away from you. It’s your moment to share with the world what you capable of doing. Moreover, stop putting others over yourself, but to know how to love where you can wear the crown (and forget about the enemies) and most importantly, to live that moment you are qualified to experience. Lastly. It’s your time to deliver and share with everybody your one rare moment you are born to carry out.

For me, one of those moments that went against me is helping and trust the wrong person who was out to destroy me as I build them up to attempt to do just that. However, there is no challenge strong enough to ruin a person who desires to overcome the worst life offer and always look at the positive side of what life brings their way. To some, it would be easy to hate a person with such a toxic behavior, but as for me, I believe hate and anger are emotional parasites that will destroy a person and their happiness in life.

After such an awful experience, to have an opportunity to experience that one moment in time sounds enchanting, doesn’t it? Yes, I would say, it does. It would be magical and a dream come true for a person that genuinely need that one moment in time. But we all know that magic does not exist, but in the literary sense, because to anyone who’s ever had that “one moment in time,” it usually comes in the form of something like a fairy-tale-written to enjoy and maybe cry as you watch it played out on the big screen. Although I must admit, some peoples have a rag to riches story that could be considered as that “one moment in time,” it was produced of hard-work, perseverance, and dare I say, endurance. A “one moment in time,” where they have the power to take full control of their life.

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What It’s Like to Parent a Child With Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD)

ADHD 2If most parents are like me, they spend an exhausting amount of time caring and attempting to prepare their children for the many challenges of life. Therefore, when a child fails and needs the kinds of help kids requires to do well, it’s heartbreaking to watch them stress and struggle. All a parent wants to do is encourage and give the right support. Especially given the fact that the school system doesn’t often teach children with Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) much and they experience constant failure.

When children have Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD), They are labeled as having behavior problems, and that makes it even harder to assist them to build a solid foundation to live a lifelong successful life. When a parent read about learning and attention issue it’s something to think about but it an entirely different thing when they witness the progeny through their child’s eyes. Children with an Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) have a tough time fitting in and being accepted by other children their age. Parent will need to know how to find a solution to this issue.

Every person with ADHD already knows that destination addiction is part of their disorder. However, if it doesn’t have a positive outlet, it can destroy your life. It is not another person that will make your life better; it is the qualities in them that you admire. Incorporate those attributes into your own life and you won’t miss a thing.

When I first learned my son had ADHD, it was a hard pill for me to swallow. Moreover, most people do not realize how much ADHD can impact a child and take serious effect on the family’s life. Before my son was diagnosed with ADHD, He was one of the most artistic, happy, and kind kids I know. But it seems as if one morning he woke up and his entire life went South, and It was an awkward situation for the family, his friends and everybody that came in contact with him.

I work for the school system for a little over seven years so, therefore, I knew there are many curriculum paths I could choose. I took the time to learn everything I need to know to make sure my son satisfactorily completed all coursework for his grade. Also, I knew that not all students are of equal caliber when it comes to academic performance. My son “Attention Issues” put him in the disadvantaged in the study category. Therefore, I had to come up with strategic studying techniques. I was able to find an excellent vital study method, which raised my son self-esteem and made him more eager to learn.

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As a parent, with a child with Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) that struggled to adjust in life, I immediately begin searching for answers to my son issue. I learn the answers were not so black and white and it would not be an easy task finding the right solution. Especially since caring for a child with special needs can become a full-time job. I’ve always thought of myself as a loving and patient mother who worked with children and teens for over seven years in the school system. I have taught many children with learning and focused disability, but when my son was diagnosed with ADHD, it was hard for me to put myself in his shoes.

And once I became a parent to a child with ADHD, I started to question myself and my ability to prepare and teach children with special needs. My son was diagnosed at the age of seven, and after being diagnosed, the school setting started to increase his attention challenges. I think the hardest part was watching my child experience isolation and depression after withdrawing from extracurricular activities, especially since I knew He was cut short of a lot of opportunities and it had a crippling effect on me. Although I knew He had a hard time sitting still for long periods, ADHD threw me for a loop.

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Frustrated with Things You Can’t Control? Here’s How to Deal: Focus on What You Can Control, Leave What You Can’t

focus onThese days, it’s best to know healthier ways to take the edge off — learning how to manage your stress level takes putting some time into practice as it’s hard not to get overwhelmed every once in a while. There are many things in life we can’t control, from difficult tragedies to tiny annoyance stuff. Nevertheless, difficult stuff will take place that we not only didn’t see coming, but things we didn’t do anything to deserve to happen. Yet, we have no power and no control to stop the issues. Knowing the difference between the kinds of stuff we can control and the things we can’t allow us to perceive the concept that difficult stuff will happen. It also helps us to control what we can and leave what we can’t.

Most of us are so busy juggling many things in our life, from the family, work and various obligations that we become too stress to set time aside to relax and unwind from the many challenges. When we are under heavy stress sometimes it’s hard to accept that we can’t control everything that is going wrong in our life. But bear in mind that your mental and physical health can suffer if you don’t decide to take control of what you do have power over and stop desiring to control the things you can’t be in charge of. Know those prodigious things will happen in our life, and we must accept that we can’t control everything going wrong in life. Also, take the time to focus on the things we can change and leave what we can’t.

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I used to allow myself to sit at home and worry over and over, as I was doing this. I was letting myself overthink, because, I was letting myself overthink when I should have stopped overthinking in its tracks. Therefore, it would have helped me get my head on straight. Instead, I obsessed over stuff that I could not change. But over the years, I learn to tolerate the things that aren’t right in my life and stop agonizing over all the significant or small details at home and deal with the stressful stuff that goes on in the workforce. That’s how I learn to focus on the things I can change and leave what I can’t.

Now for those of you who are frustrated with the things you can’t control, I’m sure you are wondering what are you to do to be in control. And how can you handle the stuff you can’t control and how can you deal with the thing that can be so frustrating? First, you need to understand that the energy you spend on worrying and being frustrated is useless. Next, you need to believe that dwelling on an impossible situation is hopeless. Then, you need to come up with a solution to solve all problems that are within your control. Last, you need to focus on what you can control, and leave what you can’t.

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How to Cope with Frustrated things, You Can’t Control?

There will be situations out of our control, but what we need to do is realize that there are always going to be things in life that will be entirely out of our control. For those who worry and get frustrated and let anger conquer your day, here is how to deal with frustrated things, you can’t control. When you are in situations that are out of your control ask yourself, “Can I Control This?” It may sound like speaker words, but I want to give you a tool to begin feeling better even when you have NO control over life. Also, by asking yourself, “Can I control this?” It is a question that is strong enough to give you a better perspective between things you have control over and those you don’t, and it’s powerful enough to help you to accept a situation and even in the worst condition.

Take the Time to “Think,” Life is full of so many unexpected events, so when an unforeseen situation arises, rather than struggle and fight, have a meltdown or have an anger outburst take the time to think about what you can control. A lot of bad things can happen when you are not in control, and you might be irritated that you don’t have the power over the situation, some may even feel weak, and others might even lash out from hurt, but take the time to “Think,” and separate the things you can control and those you cannot.

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“You are Bigger than Your Circumstances or Life Situation.”

You are bigger than your situationsLately, I have talked to a surprisingly high number of peoples about different challenges affecting their everyday life in some way. As I listen to various individuals speak on the disappointments, sadness, and heartache they are experiencing, I observed many are seeking a ‘Peaceful Resolution’ to their problems. Also, to look into the eyes of those I love, and in their eyes are sadness, tells me there is an urgent need to find an effective and timely solution. However, speaking from experience, if people even stand a chance at unity on this earth, this nation is in need of real revision from God.

To begin with a solution, I feel compelled to reach out and respond by writing an article sharing I can relate to the different situations and understand what it is that so many are going through. Also, to God’s children, I know it gets hard, and you want the rain to stop and the sun to shine. Hear me when I express God wishes His children to be at peace, and He will take the initiative to give it to them if they allow Him. Moreover, know that your purpose in life is more significant than what you are struggling with meaning,“ Nothing and no-one can ever break you, know that if no one encouraged you today, “You are bigger than your circumstance or life situation.”

Furthermore, just in case you are questioning what makes you more significant than your circumstance or life situation. Well, the answer lies with the vital purpose place in your life that is bigger than any of your struggles. And you are a part of something far more significant than all your circumstance and that connection is being a member of a family with the living God. Many of us struggle with highly stressful life events in our everyday life. In fact, some of us have trials coming at us back to back until we don’t have the time to fully breathe from one tragedy before the next hit us in the face. Take heed to this relevant quote, “If you fell down yesterday, stand up today.”― H.G. Wells.

Often we allow the challenges we struggle with to sidetrack us from what our significant purpose. Because most of us are overcome with situations that we think are intended to harm us, we fail to realize the difficult times we are going through is meant to prepare us for our purpose. But if we want to fulfill our mission, we must not allow our struggles to blindside us from what God calls us to do. To achieve our purpose, we must rely on the strength that we have through Jesus and realize that he is with us. Also, the hurt from hard trials makes it easy to believe that God isn’t in the midst of our difficult situation and He left us alone without comfort.

Know that It might seem that way when there are so many tough challenges happening to you all at once. You are only in the midst of learning how to fulfill your significant purpose in life and let me be the one to share with you during the most challenging times I experience. It seems as if God so distant, so far away it is through the most challenging time that He is so in tune and a hand on Father that will be there for His children. There will be times when your problem seems to increase and make God look small, but in those types of times, remember God is bigger than all our problems. Moreover, God said there would be many trials and troubles in our life, but we could have peace in him because he will assist us in overcoming all these hard times. God can be there for us if we let him as his word said in Revelation 3:20 King James Version (KJV) Behold, I stand at the door, and knock: if any man hear my voice, and open the door, I will come in to him, and will sup with him, and he with me.

A lot of us are facing a tough time right now, what challenging situation are you facing in your life right now? Maybe it’s a loss of a job, and you may be wondering if you will keep a roof over your head. Perhaps, it’s a toxic relationship that is draining all the life out of you, and you are desperate to find peace and gain air to breathe. Or it could be that the one person you love so much with all your heart and soul has died to leave you feeling lonely and wondering how you will continue living life without them. Possibly it’s a financial situation where you spend your last dime and are left wondering where the next dollar is coming from. Regardless of your tough situation, I am here to share with you from my hard conditions; No hard times could overcome our God and remember “You are bigger than your circumstance or life situation.”

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I Am in Full Control of My Life & Enjoy Every Aspect of it!

enjoy-life-affirmationAll too often, some of us go through life feeling like we have NO control over our lives. But we don’t have to feel that way. There are ways to take back full control of your life and shape your existence. But perhaps what it took for me to take full control of my life may not work for you. Yet it can still happen. It took me making some significant changes, which were the process that took me from a stressed and sad mess to living a life that I fully control and I love it.

How I took full control of my life when I was represented with moments in life that shaped the outcome of my existence, some small and other large, I had to stop making excuses for my failures and start making better decisions which eliminated the obstacles that were holding me back. Most importantly, I begin standing on my own two feet, live my life for what’s best for me, not how someone else thought I should live, and stop deciding decision that made me pay the price and currently I am in full control of my life and I love it.

Before I took full control of my life, I was so young, so amateur everything seems so easy, simple and I thought I knew it all. For the reason that I wanted to live life on my own terms, I put myself in the middle of many situations without realizing a holistic approach to life is essential. I took the time to write down on paper the direction I want my life to go and, in my mind, I believed that was the beginning of knowing where I was going and I was head in the right direction. But little did I know that I was rushing to travel a journey that was leading me on a path of confusion, trouble and without knowing where I was going no clear goals or purpose.

Reminiscing back to my first job and the very first time I fell in love. I was a go-getter so; I had a pretty good job for a young person who went to college and receives a four-year degree but had no clear direction as a young lady who fell in love and blown away with a guy who would break her heart just to move on. Headed in the wrong direction which was the beginning of me losing my way. At that time, it was just a small dip of trouble, and I didn’t know it at that time, but now and then in life, we lose our way, and it prevents us from living life to the full potential.

Within ten years of losing my way, I’ve been defeated by life’s challenges more times than I can count… and I am very good at math as well as with numbers, and I can count very high. I have now gained some life experience, but still, I knew nothing. So, after that, it made me very determined to find my way, but no matter how horrible, dark or distressed those times was I wouldn’t exchange those experiences whatsoever.

Instead, I chose to apply them to my life to learn from them. And believe me when I say living your life is not easy when you’re drowning in the river that runs waist deep full of troubles. Nonetheless, I learn that my problems are blessings in disguise and that how I learn to count my blessing and the beginning of taking full control of my life.

Our itinerary is filled with many crossroads during our time here on this earth. And from my experience, some roads consist of little dirt paths, while other contains large puzzling intersections. Still, I learn to maintain the most significant things in life like putting God first in my life, knowing the source of my happiness, eating and drinking healthy, maintaining good health, taking care of financial obligations, and loving and caring for loved ones. When we fail to get these things done, life becomes a series of things that happen to us. A famous quote by Charles R. Swindoll says, “Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.”

The little things are often overlooked because people are searching and waiting for the big stuff. The truth is real life is happening around all of us while it passes some of us by as many expect and hopes the big thing will take place to give them some sort of joy. When the reality is it the small things that matter most. Most of us can agree with the quote by Kurt Vonnegut., “Enjoy the little things, because one day you’ll look back and realize these were the big things.” I believe the quote means life consists of many small moments that we can take advantage of but the big dramatic moments are few and long to come if they come, enjoy and live the small moments don’t wait on something “big,” it is often the “small” things that bring success.

‘I Look to You’

whitneyWhen I welcome you into my life, I had much pain, no plans, no dreams and no hope. Living life as I knew it back then consist of just moving through it and merely existing — not living — I wasn’t living my life chasing pleasure, in whatever shape or form that ended in pain. The truth is, I had no commitment and drifted aimlessly without a purpose. Moreover, as I look at the face of the broken woman in the mirror, I reflect back on my life growing up in the early 70’s; my memories reflect a simpler time, a woman maturing into an increasingly self-reliant woman, at least until a couple of years ago. However, what made the last couple of years different, was that the dark clouds float into my life that carries thunderstorm, mists that made me feel like the world is crashing around me, ‘I Look to You.’

Not only this, being raised in church instilled in me a deep trust that if I’m loyal and always there for my friends and loved ones, they will also be there for me, but that inculcation ends up being built on a big, fat lie and a false foundation. In my life were peoples who wanted me to believe that everything has been decided for me and I had no choice in what I did. However, I couldn’t just accept others as choosing for me, and I can’t afford to waste my time doing things that not best for me or won’t better my life.

Taking a trip down memory lane contemplating back to the last couple of years, I am so flabbergasted at how my life has turned out. My life is nothing like I had initially planned. However, the thing that brought a smile to my face is who I am, my values, and my interests today. 2017 was a challenging year. Although there were undoubtedly high points, moments when light peeked through the darkness, sudden parts have me moving into the next year feeling frustrated and very worn out. Unexpected moment knocked me off course – disappointment, and circumstances, filled with letdown – left me with required time to pause and recoup energy, ‘I look to you.’

Despite having to overcome things becoming so slender going into 2018, I have learned the way I respond to hardships can have a significant effect on me. I can decide on obeying the commandments of God, which lead to His plan of happiness or I can follow Satan’s plan of misery. Furthermore, it doesn’t matter the circumstances in my life; I can choose joy or sadness as I am presented with a choice. What is more, it’s up to me whether my trails become roadblocks in my life or I can make them expressways to learning and growth. It is absurd to look at the enormous amount of pain that flourishes everywhere in the world, as it serves no purpose at all. Besides, unhappiness and much suffering to come are the direct results of sin.

I look to Thee in every need, and never look in vain;

 

There have been long seasons in my life where I felt like nothing was going right, everything was out of whack, and regardless of what I decide to do things went from bad to worst. However, one thing I have learned in recent years is life is what I make of it, and if I want to take full control of my situation, my strength should always be stronger than my circumstances. Moreover, whatever my conditions, there are things I can control, and things I cannot. Though, my primary focus is to be about the things I can control. There is personal suffering that we all can come to understand and when things get hard that I find it very hard to take on the trials of this world, ‘I look to you.’

Being born into an evil world means it is full of trouble, different things drove me crazy to the point where I was not sure whether to scream or laugh at all I been through over the years. In spite of this, I have learned to remember in those challenging seasons of life that changed everything…it does not matter how high my ambitions and expectations for myself, or no matter where I am in life if I am not happy, something needs to change. What’s more, no matter how terrible life may seem at any single point if a change can be made than do it, but if it can’t, learn to cope. From everything that I experience in life, it has brought me to the last person to say life is easy. In every difficulty in my life, whether big or small, ‘I look to you.’

No matter what evil stuff life throws my way, even if it seems hard to make it through, with you, I can be strong, when I’m too weak to handle everything alone. On my own, I’m prone to fall, but to stand, ‘I look to you.’ On those days where I feel hopeless like there is no point in living. During the times when negative and disturbing thoughts consume my mind and it, seem as if there NO way out, ‘I look to you.’ I have experienced days where my mind is overwhelmed that I overanalyze the issue and keep repeating the problem in my mind. I desire a release from an overflow of a troubled mind. I even experience days where I wanted to float away quietly on a cloud or just drift off into a haze where I only think of uplifting things far from the reality of this overwhelming life.

When things get very hard that it just all feels a lot of thoughts from one mind to have to control. The pressure of extreme thinking given is unbearable to live with, and the weight of the world is too much, and my way of living doesn’t match up to my pressure and standards. I take ages to get ready every day on the days when I feel able to try, but I am not keen enough, I lose the ability to control my home or food, then I think I will have absolutely nothing for the rest of my life is so far gone. When I am in the presence of other I feel I have to put on an appearance of appearing respectable and ‘ok’…nonetheless, in reality, I sometimes cry, scream, like a toddler who can’t deal with adult life.

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I Didn’t Believe In Love Until I Found It With You

13837257As I reflect back upon the very first time, I met the guy of my dream. Before I even had the pleasure of facing Him and speaking to Him, I had this feeling that suggests the two of us have recently connected on a deeper level before. And when we did finally meet, and as…our eyes join, my heart raced, and somehow I knew…we would be instantly connected with a deep bond that compelled us spiritually forever. Although I did not know immediately, he felt the same way I did the entire time, when we spoke to each other at that moment it was the beginning of a beautiful journey and – ‘within minutes’ love transcended all then I knew we were in love.

He gave me a hug that felt like a dream come true, and as if we stayed in that embrace for what seemed like forever. As we begin to date each day continues to be full of joy, and life was full of new beginnings, He was my daylight when days seem dark and hard. We had such a connection until even when we said goodnight and went our separate ways it felt like we had never been apart. I felt like I could still feel Him near me. We shared strong unconditional love, and I am happy to say we got married and He is my husband.

Thinking back I can remember pondering before He entered my life, things were dreadful as there’s no joy in living your life alone with no trust in guys. I know I was not alone many women live alone by choice, and there’s no such thing as a “right” relationship, although it requires sincere at both ends. The way my life was going before He entered when I imagined my future, I visualize myself being alone, “Lonely” — with no one beside me. Although there are many females alone, when they envision their future, they picture it with someone alongside them. And there nothing wrong with that because if others were frank with themselves, they would admit that they prefer not to live their life alone.

I believe the reason many females envision their future as being alone because they dated different guys but there was no connection, and nothing blossomed into a real relationship. Some women might have thought they found love just to be disappointed to witness the guy happily settled down with someone else. Dating can be a very disappointing encounter, but if you want ever to find love, you can’t close your heart, and you must shake the nagging fear that you might end up alone.

My advice to any lady who fears being alone do not allow yourself to be consumed by loneliness, but instead, acutely be aware that the bulk of your time is spent alone and equate your self-worth with relationship status. When I felt as if I would spend my life alone, I did not know then that being single does not automatically strip a woman of her strength or doom her to closing her heart, love is still available and can be closer than she knows. But women you hold the key and the power to imagine your future, to picture it with the man of your dreams. It did not happen overnight with me, but I now understand and can share this advice from my experience with the man of my dreams.

Any female who is frustrated with her present life and want a relationship, she has to change her circumstances. Although finding love comes with heartaches, it can be a great adventure. When we open our heart to love it comes with risk, I took a chance, and it brought me more joy than I would have never imagined. Some women are alone because they are afraid to take a chance on love as they have been hurt from previous risks. Never give up on love, you will find it —I’m sure — it ’s closer than you think and it will be a different finish than expected.

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Coping with Grief in a ‘Get Over it’ and ‘Move On’ World

Coping with Grief

When someone loses something very precious to them like a spouse, friend, family member or a lover the grief can be extreme. While experiencing the pain, it seems the hurt will never go away. A person may even feel he or she will never be the same or whole again. However, after months or a year into the sadness, people look at how the survivor handles the grief, and their sentiment is ‘He or she needs to ‘Get over it’ and ‘Move on.’

“But in all of the sadness, when you’re feeling that your heart is empty, and lacking, you’ve got to remember that grief isn’t the absence of love. Grief is the proof that love is still there.” ~ Tessa Shaffer, Heaven Has No Regrets

Grief is a type of emotion that has a life of its own; you never know how or when it will raise its head and take a toll on you. And more, it conducts every feeling within you, and sometimes there’s no way to distinguish it. There may be a day as to where you cry unfathomably, and some days you feel so hurt and numb that you can’t sob, and in other moments you are so unhappy or filled with a lot of pain you just don’t know what you are experiencing or just what to do.

Reflecting back on a time when my emotion overpowers me with sadness, I can remember feeling extremely sad sitting in front of the window with the blind up, and the curtain open gazing up at the stars viewing the beautiful night sky. As I looked up at the twinkling stars, and the dark sky, I can remember being over-emotional and full of thoughts. That night in many ways, my heart felt as if it would break into thousands of pieces as it palpitates in my chest and the ache I felt was unbearable.

“The ‘gift’ of grief is that it presents us with the opportunity to heal and grow.” ~ Jewish Proverb

I guess what brought about the flow of emotions I was keeping down is I had just stopped looking at the News, listening at all going on in the world today and how life is bittersweet. I didn’t think hearing very unpleasant or disturbing information would trigger all sorts of unsettling, uncomfortable and alarming feelings inside. But it did, and it made me realize I was not in touch with my emotional state, not enough to grasp I had so much sadness and pain buried inside. When a person doesn’t deal with the source of His or her pain, it sometimes comes out when they least expect it.

Moreover, all the unkind things the News broadcast share different cruelty that exists in the world. I think the segment that got to me the most is viewing the grief and hurt of many family members. To watch the video of how this young nineteen-year-old male with violent behavior, walks into a school to start a mass shooting and take the life of seventeen and injury fourteen. To see many cries and mourn the loss of their loved one was just heartbreaking. No person of sound mind would do such a thing and what he did is unbelievable and unthinkable.

After viewing the video, my thoughts were as long as sinful people live, and they refuse to accept responsibility for their action things will never get better. Furthermore, this generation and the one to come will continue to be shackled in chains, linked by sin that imprisons the soul. Because so much violence is going on, some of us box ourselves into a closed crate that we have carefully designed, trying to protect ourselves from the things we fear. But we must not do this because what we are doing is closing ourselves off to the possibility and significance of life.

To grieve, does not mean closing yourself inside a box or a crate. You must be willing to think outside the box and know there is something external better and accept the resources that will help you deal with your monotony. Devastating heartbreak like sudden illness, unexpected death or a surprising break up can leave us all feeling quite vulnerable and lost. And no matter how strong we think we are, trying to keep from feeling helpless is almost impossible. For that reason, it’s significant to keep in mind that even though you may feel powerless — you’re not. To all who have ever felt shattered and lost, you can reclaim your life and start again.

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