Life Is An Echo; What You Send Out Comes Back!

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Life is an echo; what you send out comes back. What you experience today is the consequence of yesterday and tomorrow results depend on what you do today.

What you do in life, echoes in everlastings so be mindful how you live each day. Those who live to do what’s right will harvest everlasting life. While the one who chooses to do wrong will reap many perpetual sorrowful days.

Moreover, most of you know the Chinese Proverb, “Life is an echo. What you send out comes back,” the saying is a legitimate statement, yet, most of you live your lives as if the meaning of this quote is just something you should forget or like you don’t believe this saying to be true.

Some might not believe life is an echo, except, if they walk a mile in another man’s shoes, they would remember the Golden Rule of life. The practice where you treat another, the way you would want to be treated. It’s a saying that goes far beyond words simply being said; it’s a very simple adage everybody should believe and live.

Do you believe the Golden Rule of life to be true? No one wants to be placed in an unfavorable situation where life echoes the circumstances of their own doing. As it’s hard to reap what you sow when you place yourself in an unfortunate position.

When we are forced to deal with the echo of life and it seems too much, a person will like any opportunity to make their lives a little easier. To do such you need to start giving the world the best you have and before you know it, the good you share will all come back to you.

Your main focus should be to treat others as you want to be treated. Yet numerous individuals fail to do so and there are two main reasons why. Many don’t treat others the way they want to be treated because of number one: many are lovers of themselves and fail to care for another. Two: they are selfish, and allow themselves to be interested in their well-being only.

There’s a famous saying from Lyndon Johnson that says, “If we are to live together in peace, we must come to know each other better.” If we selfish and lovers of our self, is this fair to the other person who involves? No, remember life is like an echo, what we send out comes back and what you reap you will sow.

You don’t have a right to be upset when life echo back to you what you put out to someone else. I had to learn this wisdom first hand myself. And hear me when I say I put out a lot of good more than wrong, still, it was hard for me to maintain or continue living life when this one wrong return back to me.

Five years ago, I walked away from a relationship I share with my sister, we were close, two peas in a pot, we talked about any and everything and help each other dealt with life’s challenges. We shared everything and we had each other back, when she was weak, I was strong and vice versa.

This particular time we both were going through at the same times and we both were weak. My sister was taking her problem out on me and saying mean things to me. We argue a lot and I was tired of her taking her frustration out on me.

I tried talking to her and telling her she needs to consider my feeling and give me a little more appreciation as I was respecting her. She continued her rage, throwing out words that cut through the soul and one day we encounter a very fiery conversation and she said words to me in a heated moment that I felt was unforgivable.

When she saw how hurt I was she apologized to me, I walked away. She tried calling I wouldn’t answer my phone. She even came to my house and tried talking to me, I ask her out and we didn’t speak on my part for two years.

Although what she said was not something, I would have ever said to her, I was wrong to take the words so personal and reject her from my life. Two years ago, I flat hit rock bottom and turn to a loved one in my family for help. It was another bad decision I made.

My sister, I walked away from heard of the hard times I fell upon and reach out to me. It was not easy for me to hear from her during the most challenging times of my life, but I did. I’m sure the person that was not doing right by me told her and that’s okay too, because maybe they mean it in a bad way, it turns out to be for my good.


We were able to salvage two years of past hurt to put behind us and to wipe the sled clean and move forward. I am happy she reached out to me because I never would have contacted her and I missed her dearly. When she shared with me how unhappy and miserable, she was without me, it made me so sorry I ever act in such a foolish way.

Most of all for her to share with me, she knew it was wrong of her to say what she said out of anger and I was wrong to walk away from a bond we share since we grew up as little girls. She was hurting and wishing it was something she could have done differently so we never lost two years hurt me to the depths of my soul.

I shared this experience to say, we should be careful what we say and how we treat another as words are powerful and once, they come out the mouth they cannot be taken back. The way you treat another can affect them and words have a way of destroying everything from relationships to people’s lives. Especially in a situation where the person you throwing harsh words to not strong enough to take them.

I had a right to demand she calm down and choose better words, except, I should have handled things better. The way a person manages a situation can contribute to the outcome. Walking away from her the way I did was not the best end and I feel because I handle things that way as I continue to live life it echoes in a situation I didn’t desire.

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The Mind can be Both Your Greatest Ally and Worst Enemy; You Make It Your Strongest Ally!

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The brain is a powerful force and it is the most influential organ of the human body. It is how thoughts are generated, plays an important role in coordinating movement, assists you to maintain good posture, and balancing of the body on a daily. Your mind can be your most powerful ally or it very well can work against you as your worst enemy.

The best-guaranteed way to ensure your mind operates as the ally over being your worst enemy is by being conscious of what you’re good at and putting great use of one of the most powerful tools you will ever have at your disposal, the brain.

Once you put to good use that powerful tools, you must know how to get control of your thought process. To get control of your thought process, you must ask yourself a question.

Ask yourself how can I take action when my mind seems confused about the task? You look for the solution when you are a victim of your mind. The truth is you can take full control of your thoughts. It’s not easy, but it’s possible.

With that much capability of the brain, we all such appreciate the power of the mind. The mind has the ability to be the greatest hindrance or your biggest ally. It can be used to clear the road and pave the way for you or block you causing all kinds of misery.

The brain is the greatest resource for any human. It is the opener of getting the best grade in school or getting into the best college. The brain will help a person to achieve a job and a promotion, it can help an individual to accomplish a lot, yet until a person learns to empower the brain, it stands to be either our worst enemy or our best ally. You get to choose and there will come a time in your life when you can no longer put off choosing.

From the moment you begin your day, the process of mind and how you deal with your thoughts begins the power to choose. The current of thoughts goes on from the moment you get out of bed, begin to walk. You left choosing rather shower or take a bath to get dressed. To choose rather eat breakfast, or just grab a cup of coffee. Whether to brush your teeth with a spin brush or just a regular toothbrush.

Our brain is the opener to choices, you face the decision rather talk on the telephone while the drive to work or hang up and safely travel to your destination. Did you know that your mind is the most powerful tool that you could ever possess?

It is my suggestion that you start taking now to train your mind and your thought. The reason being is the thought process goes on and on like a constant rational noise until you fall asleep. By changing your thoughts, you can improve your life. Your mind comes with exceptional power – use it well.

There’s a familiar quote that says, “You are today where your thoughts have brought you; you will be tomorrow where your thoughts take you.” – James Allen. We all should pay attention to this powerful saying, it’s a hint for the wise.

The mind can be your most powerful ally and your worst enemy. With this awareness, it’s essential to understand those negative thoughts will affect you mentally and physically and create poverty. Positive thoughts will create a life of abundance. Your thoughts have a significant impact on your life. In other words, you have the ability to understand your thoughts and make it your strongest ally to be a powerful force.

Yes, you can use your thoughts as a creative force to process the mind to be your strongest ally and create a life filled with happiness. It is estimated by a specialist that the human brain produces 70,000 thoughts per day, and that’s a lot of observations. Although you don’t have access to easily turn off or control the flow of your thoughts, you do have the next best thing, the ability to make it your strongest ally.

Most of us probably don’t take the time to regard what kind of thoughts we think. If you take the time to pay attention to your thought process, you would be surprised to discover that most of them are useless, unnecessary thoughts that pass through the mind at an enormous speed.

You might not believe it, but the thoughts passing through your mind is just like being on a very busy train that is capable of running at a fast speed or on an airplane where it capable of flying at a greater capacity to get you to your destination in less time. With this type of awareness and knowing the mind can be a powerful contributor or an enemy, you need to make sure the mind is your strongest ally.

You need to know that you are a powerful force sitting in the driver seat, controlling your thoughts. Never ever move over to the side passage and allow your fear-based thoughts to change your desires because it will affect your reality. You have the ability to take control of your thought process no matter what you have believed or experienced in the past.

The mind can be like a busy bee or a diligent butterfly that flies around from one flower to the next, never being still. Although the mind goes on at a none stop, it is only when you need to focus on something particular that you might be aware of the thought process, but on a busy day, you more than likely will not notice how the mind can be this ongoing endless thinking habit.

What Negative Thoughts Do to Your Brain

For many centuries, our marvelous brain has evolved to make decisions and whether it’s the right or wrong decision, it responds quickly to all situations, even those that are threats to your safety and very hard to endure.

Negative thoughts can have a powerful effect on the brain, it comes with a lot of nonstop chatter that needs calming down. When negative thoughts generate, it brings about a change in the mind. When a person’s stress, grieves or worry, the brains are deceived into thinking whatever is going on is a threat which causes neurochemical changes. These changes cause a harmful effect on your health and well-being.

What Positive thought do to the Brain

When a person is occupied by thoughts each thought releases some kind of chemical. Nonetheless, when positive thinking is created there is growth in the brain, reinforcing and generating new synapses. When you feel happy, it brings about positivity. The cortisol level decreases and the brain produce serotonin; generating good health and well-being.

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The Power of Broke: How Empty Pockets, a Tight Budget, and Desire Can Turn to Success


Maybe everybody doesn’t know it, but there is power in being broke, just like there is misery in doing without. I learned both lessons first-hand from my experience of being broke, and from that overwhelming encounter, I discovered that when you don’t have money, you’ll invent ways to find resources others don’t see as income.

There was a time in my life where I lost everything, I was so devastated that I knew I had to dig into my creativity and aggressively pursue the strength to change and turn things around.

During that crushing and very overwhelming experience, I was forced to create a new mindset. I begin asking myself questions that could assist me to get to the next level and receive stuff that helps me to learn the power of being broke.

In my experience, enduring being broke changes a person’s mindset and allows them to see where they went wrong. And through the desire to change the situation, they receive the control that the power of broke play where it will show them how having no money can be turned into an advantage.

When you have goals sometimes you have to go on a tight budget. When you are forced to take a tight budget, the idea of obtaining a new savings goal may seem hard to next to impossible.

While it’s nice to have paychecks coming, some of us are living one paycheck to the next so we feel short of money. When you live so close to the edge that you feel like you’re falling apart because you can’t pay your bills until you receive your next check, It’s time to discover the power of broke.

How to Begin

The very first thing you need to do is create a lifetime personal commitment to knowing where every dime goes after it comes in. Then plan a tight budget to stop spending on things that are not a necessity. That method can serve to change your daily spending habits. Below are ways to assist you to begin the first six months.

For the first six months, you must begin by committing to keeping up with how much income comes in and only using your money to pay for the following expenses:

  • Grocery Expense
  • Car Note/Gas Expense
  • Mortgage/Rent
  • Telephone
  • Utilities

The expenses listed above are the standard-of-living necessities that must be fulfilled daily. Boost your savings goal by choosing lower-cost choices for your usual spending habits.

While your bills are something you have to pay, you do have a choice to lower the cost of them monthly. I recommend people do what I did when I made the decision to change my spending habits for the most effective results.


In other words, if you want to be able to ensure you get the best of your savings goals, you need to begin by checking and making sure you have the lowest-cost options, if not immediately change your usual spending habits.

Here are a few examples:

Do you have a home phone and a cell phone? If the answer is “Yes” let go of the home phone and only keep the cell phone. Next, check with your cell phone provider to make sure you have the lowest cost. If you have extras with your plan take them off and only pay for the basic.

Do you eat out for lunch at work and eat out once or twice a week for dinner? If the answer is “Yes,” stop eating out altogether. Bring your lunch, and plan meals, cook and eat at home.

Do you have cable (most people do)? Downgrade the channels and eliminate the extras like HBO, Cinemax, Showtime or Starz, and the extra sports channels.

Are you a coffee drinker? Do you need two or more cups of coffee each day? Maybe you depend on a cup of coffee to start your day. If you do start by cutting back on the total number of cups of coffee you drink. Next, drink the free coffee at work and check on lowering the cost of your coffee. Maybe check for sales or purchasing in bulks to get a better bargain.

Maybe you love going out or enjoy different activities. Well, it’s time to save on the gas by going only to the places you need to go, like work, doctors appointment, or church, and stop some activities altogether as you are now committing to a tight budget.

You put together a goal and set up a budget: now let’s visualize the progress. In order for any goal to be put into effect, you must not only create but visualize the perception to stay motivated throughout your challenge.

You are turning into a smart saver and now you need to set a target of what you want to save each week, bi-weekly or monthly. Create a spreadsheet to keep up with your goal. Make sure you faithfully balance and keep up with your progress to motivate yourself.

Open up a saving account to store your funds, there are many accounts you can choose from but bear in mind that the best account is one that has a high annual percentage yield.

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‘One Moment In Time’

backgroundEach time that I’m blessed to see a new day and to overcome different trials present me with an opportunity to look forward to the day when I can look back on life’s challenges and smile through my worry and gather strength from my pain. Gaining life’s experience are what makes life fascinating; overcoming challenges is what makes life significant and that one moment in time is what will free me to break these shackles from my feet that are holding me down. I will be my authentic self to realize wake up and recognize I am no longer distress; I can listen to my true self over my ego when they don’t agree.

As we are all aware of the fact that we have only one life to live and we should do our best to live it to the fullest. Start by understanding the things we endure in this world is temporary. Whether you are experiencing a good or bad life each is temporary, so, when you are living your best life enjoy it. Moreover, when life is challenging you and makes you feel you at your worst, don’t allow the trials to get the best of you, know you will get through it. There is a lesson in the tests you are going through as life is full of ups and downs, understanding the entire worth of your hardships is the key to appreciating and overcoming adversity.


“The two hardest tests on the spiritual road are the patience to wait for the right moment and the courage not to be disappointed with what we encounter.” ― Paulo Coelho, Veronika Decides to Die


This world consists of so many trials until it’s hard to find the right moment to relax, let the stress go, and live in the moment. Life isn’t always beautiful; in fact, sometimes life is just plain hard. Furthermore, we’ve all had bad days (and maybe even years) where trouble just seems to follow us. For that reason, we need a break, where life leads us away from all problems to the Happily ever after time. Where it’s okay for us to be human with no expectation and no obsessing to be love, but proceed to ensure you enjoy being in the moment, so every second count rather than trying to be validated from those around you.

I’ve had long seasons of life where I felt as if it weren’t for bad luck, I could live that moment in time where I get to be me. Days where I can enjoy that great moment in time that releases me from struggles, getting knocked down and have the wind knocked out of me, transform me where I can be the best I can be. Every day consisted of the beautiful sunshine and NO rains or winter days. A moment in time that will change my lives forever where my best days repeat, and I could make time stand still. Then I know I can live this glorious moment forever.

Do you know how damaging it can be to have so much wrong going on in one person’s life? Though, bad things happen, unfortunate things can happen to anyone. Cruel stuff like getting an injury on the job and it, not your fault but to be treated as if it is. Betrayal from friends and loved ones. Things that bad for your mood like the car breaking down at the worst moment, bills due and not enough money to pay them all. Even more unwanted things like lying awake for most of the night full of thought when you need to be sleeping and losing the love of your life to death where it’s hard to know how to continue living; all these trials make the person experience these challenges desperate for just one moment in time.

When I speak of that one moment in time, I am talking about that moment where you are the ultimate winner, the shining star, someone who knows how to seize that one moment in time. A time where everything is going your way, and nothing and no one on this Earth can affect or take that achievement away from you. It’s your moment to share with the world what you capable of doing. Moreover, stop putting others over yourself, but to know how to love where you can wear the crown (and forget about the enemies) and most importantly, to live that moment you are qualified to experience. Lastly. It’s your time to deliver and share with everybody your one rare moment you are born to carry out.

For me, one of those moments that went against me is helping and trust the wrong person who was out to destroy me as I build them up to attempt to do just that. However, there is no challenge strong enough to ruin a person who desires to overcome the worst life offer and always look at the positive side of what life brings their way. To some, it would be easy to hate a person with such a toxic behavior, but as for me, I believe hate and anger are emotional parasites that will destroy a person and their happiness in life.

After such an awful experience, to have an opportunity to experience that one moment in time sounds enchanting, doesn’t it? Yes, I would say, it does. It would be magical and a dream come true for a person that genuinely need that one moment in time. But we all know that magic does not exist, but in the literary sense, because to anyone who’s ever had that “one moment in time,” it usually comes in the form of something like a fairy-tale-written to enjoy and maybe cry as you watch it played out on the big screen. Although I must admit, some peoples have a rag to riches story that could be considered as that “one moment in time,” it was produced of hard-work, perseverance, and dare I say, endurance. A “one moment in time,” where they have the power to take full control of their life.

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What It’s Like to Parent a Child With Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD)

ADHD 2If most parents are like me, they spend an exhausting amount of time caring and attempting to prepare their children for the many challenges of life. Therefore, when a child fails and needs the kinds of help kids requires to do well, it’s heartbreaking to watch them stress and struggle. All a parent wants to do is encourage and give the right support. Especially given the fact that the school system doesn’t often teach children with Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) much and they experience constant failure.

When children have Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD), They are labeled as having behavior problems, and that makes it even harder to assist them to build a solid foundation to live a lifelong successful life. When a parent read about learning and attention issue it’s something to think about but it an entirely different thing when they witness the progeny through their child’s eyes. Children with an Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) have a tough time fitting in and being accepted by other children their age. Parent will need to know how to find a solution to this issue.

Every person with ADHD already knows that destination addiction is part of their disorder. However, if it doesn’t have a positive outlet, it can destroy your life. It is not another person that will make your life better; it is the qualities in them that you admire. Incorporate those attributes into your own life and you won’t miss a thing.

When I first learned my son had ADHD, it was a hard pill for me to swallow. Moreover, most people do not realize how much ADHD can impact a child and take serious effect on the family’s life. Before my son was diagnosed with ADHD, He was one of the most artistic, happy, and kind kids I know. But it seems as if one morning he woke up and his entire life went South, and It was an awkward situation for the family, his friends and everybody that came in contact with him.

I work for the school system for a little over seven years so, therefore, I knew there are many curriculum paths I could choose. I took the time to learn everything I need to know to make sure my son satisfactorily completed all coursework for his grade. Also, I knew that not all students are of equal caliber when it comes to academic performance. My son “Attention Issues” put him in the disadvantaged in the study category. Therefore, I had to come up with strategic studying techniques. I was able to find an excellent vital study method, which raised my son self-esteem and made him more eager to learn.


As a parent, with a child with Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) that struggled to adjust in life, I immediately begin searching for answers to my son issue. I learn the answers were not so black and white and it would not be an easy task finding the right solution. Especially since caring for a child with special needs can become a full-time job. I’ve always thought of myself as a loving and patient mother who worked with children and teens for over seven years in the school system. I have taught many children with learning and focused disability, but when my son was diagnosed with ADHD, it was hard for me to put myself in his shoes.

And once I became a parent to a child with ADHD, I started to question myself and my ability to prepare and teach children with special needs. My son was diagnosed at the age of seven, and after being diagnosed, the school setting started to increase his attention challenges. I think the hardest part was watching my child experience isolation and depression after withdrawing from extracurricular activities, especially since I knew He was cut short of a lot of opportunities and it had a crippling effect on me. Although I knew He had a hard time sitting still for long periods, ADHD threw me for a loop.

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Frustrated with Things You Can’t Control? Here’s How to Deal: Focus on What You Can Control, Leave What You Can’t

focus onThese days, it’s best to know healthier ways to take the edge off — learning how to manage your stress level takes putting some time into practice as it’s hard not to get overwhelmed every once in a while. There are many things in life we can’t control, from difficult tragedies to tiny annoyance stuff. Nevertheless, difficult stuff will take place that we not only didn’t see coming, but things we didn’t do anything to deserve to happen. Yet, we have no power and no control to stop the issues. Knowing the difference between the kinds of stuff we can control and the things we can’t allow us to perceive the concept that difficult stuff will happen. It also helps us to control what we can and leave what we can’t.

Most of us are so busy juggling many things in our life, from the family, work and various obligations that we become too stress to set time aside to relax and unwind from the many challenges. When we are under heavy stress sometimes it’s hard to accept that we can’t control everything that is going wrong in our life. But bear in mind that your mental and physical health can suffer if you don’t decide to take control of what you do have power over and stop desiring to control the things you can’t be in charge of. Know those prodigious things will happen in our life, and we must accept that we can’t control everything going wrong in life. Also, take the time to focus on the things we can change and leave what we can’t.


I used to allow myself to sit at home and worry over and over, as I was doing this. I was letting myself overthink, because, I was letting myself overthink when I should have stopped overthinking in its tracks. Therefore, it would have helped me get my head on straight. Instead, I obsessed over stuff that I could not change. But over the years, I learn to tolerate the things that aren’t right in my life and stop agonizing over all the significant or small details at home and deal with the stressful stuff that goes on in the workforce. That’s how I learn to focus on the things I can change and leave what I can’t.

Now for those of you who are frustrated with the things you can’t control, I’m sure you are wondering what are you to do to be in control. And how can you handle the stuff you can’t control and how can you deal with the thing that can be so frustrating? First, you need to understand that the energy you spend on worrying and being frustrated is useless. Next, you need to believe that dwelling on an impossible situation is hopeless. Then, you need to come up with a solution to solve all problems that are within your control. Last, you need to focus on what you can control, and leave what you can’t.


How to Cope with Frustrated things, You Can’t Control?

There will be situations out of our control, but what we need to do is realize that there are always going to be things in life that will be entirely out of our control. For those who worry and get frustrated and let anger conquer your day, here is how to deal with frustrated things, you can’t control. When you are in situations that are out of your control ask yourself, “Can I Control This?” It may sound like speaker words, but I want to give you a tool to begin feeling better even when you have NO control over life. Also, by asking yourself, “Can I control this?” It is a question that is strong enough to give you a better perspective between things you have control over and those you don’t, and it’s powerful enough to help you to accept a situation and even in the worst condition.

Take the Time to “Think,” Life is full of so many unexpected events, so when an unforeseen situation arises, rather than struggle and fight, have a meltdown or have an anger outburst take the time to think about what you can control. A lot of bad things can happen when you are not in control, and you might be irritated that you don’t have the power over the situation, some may even feel weak, and others might even lash out from hurt, but take the time to “Think,” and separate the things you can control and those you cannot.

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“You are Bigger than Your Circumstances or Life Situation.”

You are bigger than your situationsLately, I have talked to a surprisingly high number of peoples about different challenges affecting their everyday life in some way. As I listen to various individuals speak on the disappointments, sadness, and heartache they are experiencing, I observed many are seeking a ‘Peaceful Resolution’ to their problems. Also, to look into the eyes of those I love, and in their eyes are sadness, tells me there is an urgent need to find an effective and timely solution. However, speaking from experience, if people even stand a chance at unity on this earth, this nation is in need of real revision from God.

To begin with a solution, I feel compelled to reach out and respond by writing an article sharing I can relate to the different situations and understand what it is that so many are going through. Also, to God’s children, I know it gets hard, and you want the rain to stop and the sun to shine. Hear me when I express God wishes His children to be at peace, and He will take the initiative to give it to them if they allow Him. Moreover, know that your purpose in life is more significant than what you are struggling with meaning,“ Nothing and no-one can ever break you, know that if no one encouraged you today, “You are bigger than your circumstance or life situation.”

Furthermore, just in case you are questioning what makes you more significant than your circumstance or life situation. Well, the answer lies with the vital purpose place in your life that is bigger than any of your struggles. And you are a part of something far more significant than all your circumstance and that connection is being a member of a family with the living God. Many of us struggle with highly stressful life events in our everyday life. In fact, some of us have trials coming at us back to back until we don’t have the time to fully breathe from one tragedy before the next hit us in the face. Take heed to this relevant quote, “If you fell down yesterday, stand up today.”― H.G. Wells.

Often we allow the challenges we struggle with to sidetrack us from what our significant purpose. Because most of us are overcome with situations that we think are intended to harm us, we fail to realize the difficult times we are going through is meant to prepare us for our purpose. But if we want to fulfill our mission, we must not allow our struggles to blindside us from what God calls us to do. To achieve our purpose, we must rely on the strength that we have through Jesus and realize that he is with us. Also, the hurt from hard trials makes it easy to believe that God isn’t in the midst of our difficult situation and He left us alone without comfort.

Know that It might seem that way when there are so many tough challenges happening to you all at once. You are only in the midst of learning how to fulfill your significant purpose in life and let me be the one to share with you during the most challenging times I experience. It seems as if God so distant, so far away it is through the most challenging time that He is so in tune and a hand on Father that will be there for His children. There will be times when your problem seems to increase and make God look small, but in those types of times, remember God is bigger than all our problems. Moreover, God said there would be many trials and troubles in our life, but we could have peace in him because he will assist us in overcoming all these hard times. God can be there for us if we let him as his word said in Revelation 3:20 King James Version (KJV) Behold, I stand at the door, and knock: if any man hear my voice, and open the door, I will come in to him, and will sup with him, and he with me.

A lot of us are facing a tough time right now, what challenging situation are you facing in your life right now? Maybe it’s a loss of a job, and you may be wondering if you will keep a roof over your head. Perhaps, it’s a toxic relationship that is draining all the life out of you, and you are desperate to find peace and gain air to breathe. Or it could be that the one person you love so much with all your heart and soul has died to leave you feeling lonely and wondering how you will continue living life without them. Possibly it’s a financial situation where you spend your last dime and are left wondering where the next dollar is coming from. Regardless of your tough situation, I am here to share with you from my hard conditions; No hard times could overcome our God and remember “You are bigger than your circumstance or life situation.”

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I Am in Full Control of My Life & Enjoy Every Aspect of it!

enjoy-life-affirmationAll too often, some of us go through life feeling like we have NO control over our lives. But we don’t have to feel that way. There are ways to take back full control of your life and shape your existence. But perhaps what it took for me to take full control of my life may not work for you. Yet it can still happen. It took me making some significant changes, which were the process that took me from a stressed and sad mess to living a life that I fully control and I love it.

How I took full control of my life when I was represented with moments in life that shaped the outcome of my existence, some small and other large, I had to stop making excuses for my failures and start making better decisions which eliminated the obstacles that were holding me back. Most importantly, I begin standing on my own two feet, live my life for what’s best for me, not how someone else thought I should live, and stop deciding decision that made me pay the price and currently I am in full control of my life and I love it.

Before I took full control of my life, I was so young, so amateur everything seems so easy, simple and I thought I knew it all. For the reason that I wanted to live life on my own terms, I put myself in the middle of many situations without realizing a holistic approach to life is essential. I took the time to write down on paper the direction I want my life to go and, in my mind, I believed that was the beginning of knowing where I was going and I was head in the right direction. But little did I know that I was rushing to travel a journey that was leading me on a path of confusion, trouble and without knowing where I was going no clear goals or purpose.

Reminiscing back to my first job and the very first time I fell in love. I was a go-getter so; I had a pretty good job for a young person who went to college and receives a four-year degree but had no clear direction as a young lady who fell in love and blown away with a guy who would break her heart just to move on. Headed in the wrong direction which was the beginning of me losing my way. At that time, it was just a small dip of trouble, and I didn’t know it at that time, but now and then in life, we lose our way, and it prevents us from living life to the full potential.

Within ten years of losing my way, I’ve been defeated by life’s challenges more times than I can count… and I am very good at math as well as with numbers, and I can count very high. I have now gained some life experience, but still, I knew nothing. So, after that, it made me very determined to find my way, but no matter how horrible, dark or distressed those times was I wouldn’t exchange those experiences whatsoever.

Instead, I chose to apply them to my life to learn from them. And believe me when I say living your life is not easy when you’re drowning in the river that runs waist deep full of troubles. Nonetheless, I learn that my problems are blessings in disguise and that how I learn to count my blessing and the beginning of taking full control of my life.

Our itinerary is filled with many crossroads during our time here on this earth. And from my experience, some roads consist of little dirt paths, while other contains large puzzling intersections. Still, I learn to maintain the most significant things in life like putting God first in my life, knowing the source of my happiness, eating and drinking healthy, maintaining good health, taking care of financial obligations, and loving and caring for loved ones. When we fail to get these things done, life becomes a series of things that happen to us. A famous quote by Charles R. Swindoll says, “Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.”

The little things are often overlooked because people are searching and waiting for the big stuff. The truth is real life is happening around all of us while it passes some of us by as many expect and hopes the big thing will take place to give them some sort of joy. When the reality is it the small things that matter most. Most of us can agree with the quote by Kurt Vonnegut., “Enjoy the little things, because one day you’ll look back and realize these were the big things.” I believe the quote means life consists of many small moments that we can take advantage of but the big dramatic moments are few and long to come if they come, enjoy and live the small moments don’t wait on something “big,” it is often the “small” things that bring success.

‘I Look to You’

whitneyWhen I welcome you into my life, I had much pain, no plans, no dreams and no hope. Living life as I knew it back then consist of just moving through it and merely existing — not living — I wasn’t living my life chasing pleasure, in whatever shape or form that ended in pain. The truth is, I had no commitment and drifted aimlessly without a purpose. Moreover, as I look at the face of the broken woman in the mirror, I reflect back on my life growing up in the early 70’s; my memories reflect a simpler time, a woman maturing into an increasingly self-reliant woman, at least until a couple of years ago. However, what made the last couple of years different, was that the dark clouds float into my life that carries thunderstorm, mists that made me feel like the world is crashing around me, ‘I Look to You.’

Not only this, being raised in church instilled in me a deep trust that if I’m loyal and always there for my friends and loved ones, they will also be there for me, but that inculcation ends up being built on a big, fat lie and a false foundation. In my life were peoples who wanted me to believe that everything has been decided for me and I had no choice in what I did. However, I couldn’t just accept others as choosing for me, and I can’t afford to waste my time doing things that not best for me or won’t better my life.

Taking a trip down memory lane contemplating back to the last couple of years, I am so flabbergasted at how my life has turned out. My life is nothing like I had initially planned. However, the thing that brought a smile to my face is who I am, my values, and my interests today. 2017 was a challenging year. Although there were undoubtedly high points, moments when light peeked through the darkness, sudden parts have me moving into the next year feeling frustrated and very worn out. Unexpected moment knocked me off course – disappointment, and circumstances, filled with letdown – left me with required time to pause and recoup energy, ‘I look to you.’

Despite having to overcome things becoming so slender going into 2018, I have learned the way I respond to hardships can have a significant effect on me. I can decide on obeying the commandments of God, which lead to His plan of happiness or I can follow Satan’s plan of misery. Furthermore, it doesn’t matter the circumstances in my life; I can choose joy or sadness as I am presented with a choice. What is more, it’s up to me whether my trails become roadblocks in my life or I can make them expressways to learning and growth. It is absurd to look at the enormous amount of pain that flourishes everywhere in the world, as it serves no purpose at all. Besides, unhappiness and much suffering to come are the direct results of sin.

I look to Thee in every need, and never look in vain;


There have been long seasons in my life where I felt like nothing was going right, everything was out of whack, and regardless of what I decide to do things went from bad to worst. However, one thing I have learned in recent years is life is what I make of it, and if I want to take full control of my situation, my strength should always be stronger than my circumstances. Moreover, whatever my conditions, there are things I can control, and things I cannot. Though, my primary focus is to be about the things I can control. There is personal suffering that we all can come to understand and when things get hard that I find it very hard to take on the trials of this world, ‘I look to you.’

Being born into an evil world means it is full of trouble, different things drove me crazy to the point where I was not sure whether to scream or laugh at all I been through over the years. In spite of this, I have learned to remember in those challenging seasons of life that changed everything…it does not matter how high my ambitions and expectations for myself, or no matter where I am in life if I am not happy, something needs to change. What’s more, no matter how terrible life may seem at any single point if a change can be made than do it, but if it can’t, learn to cope. From everything that I experience in life, it has brought me to the last person to say life is easy. In every difficulty in my life, whether big or small, ‘I look to you.’

No matter what evil stuff life throws my way, even if it seems hard to make it through, with you, I can be strong, when I’m too weak to handle everything alone. On my own, I’m prone to fall, but to stand, ‘I look to you.’ On those days where I feel hopeless like there is no point in living. During the times when negative and disturbing thoughts consume my mind and it, seem as if there NO way out, ‘I look to you.’ I have experienced days where my mind is overwhelmed that I overanalyze the issue and keep repeating the problem in my mind. I desire a release from an overflow of a troubled mind. I even experience days where I wanted to float away quietly on a cloud or just drift off into a haze where I only think of uplifting things far from the reality of this overwhelming life.

When things get very hard that it just all feels a lot of thoughts from one mind to have to control. The pressure of extreme thinking given is unbearable to live with, and the weight of the world is too much, and my way of living doesn’t match up to my pressure and standards. I take ages to get ready every day on the days when I feel able to try, but I am not keen enough, I lose the ability to control my home or food, then I think I will have absolutely nothing for the rest of my life is so far gone. When I am in the presence of other I feel I have to put on an appearance of appearing respectable and ‘ok’…nonetheless, in reality, I sometimes cry, scream, like a toddler who can’t deal with adult life.

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