All too often, some of us go through life feeling like we have NO control over our lives. But we don’t have to feel that way. There are ways to take back full control of your life and shape your existence. But perhaps what it took for me to take full control of my life may not work for you. Yet it can still happen. It took me making some significant changes, which were the process that took me from a stressed and sad mess to living a life that I fully control and I love it.
How I took full control of my life when I was represented with moments in life that shaped the outcome of my existence, some small and other large, I had to stop making excuses for my failures and start making better decisions which eliminated the obstacles that were holding me back. Most importantly, I begin standing on my own two feet, live my life for what’s best for me, not how someone else thought I should live, and stop deciding decision that made me pay the price and currently I am in full control of my life and I love it.
Before I took full control of my life, I was so young, so amateur everything seems so easy, simple and I thought I knew it all. For the reason that I wanted to live life on my own terms, I put myself in the middle of many situations without realizing a holistic approach to life is essential. I took the time to write down on paper the direction I want my life to go and, in my mind, I believed that was the beginning of knowing where I was going and I was head in the right direction. But little did I know that I was rushing to travel a journey that was leading me on a path of confusion, trouble and without knowing where I was going no clear goals or purpose.
Reminiscing back to my first job and the very first time I fell in love. I was a go-getter so; I had a pretty good job for a young person who went to college and receives a four-year degree but had no clear direction as a young lady who fell in love and blown away with a guy who would break her heart just to move on. Headed in the wrong direction which was the beginning of me losing my way. At that time, it was just a small dip of trouble, and I didn’t know it at that time, but now and then in life, we lose our way, and it prevents us from living life to the full potential.
Within ten years of losing my way, I’ve been defeated by life’s challenges more times than I can count… and I am very good at math as well as with numbers, and I can count very high. I have now gained some life experience, but still, I knew nothing. So, after that, it made me very determined to find my way, but no matter how horrible, dark or distressed those times was I wouldn’t exchange those experiences whatsoever.
Instead, I chose to apply them to my life to learn from them. And believe me when I say living your life is not easy when you’re drowning in the river that runs waist deep full of troubles. Nonetheless, I learn that my problems are blessings in disguise and that how I learn to count my blessing and the beginning of taking full control of my life.
Our itinerary is filled with many crossroads during our time here on this earth. And from my experience, some roads consist of little dirt paths, while other contains large puzzling intersections. Still, I learn to maintain the most significant things in life like putting God first in my life, knowing the source of my happiness, eating and drinking healthy, maintaining good health, taking care of financial obligations, and loving and caring for loved ones. When we fail to get these things done, life becomes a series of things that happen to us. A famous quote by Charles R. Swindoll says, “Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.”
The little things are often overlooked because people are searching and waiting for the big stuff. The truth is real life is happening around all of us while it passes some of us by as many expect and hopes the big thing will take place to give them some sort of joy. When the reality is it the small things that matter most. Most of us can agree with the quote by Kurt Vonnegut., “Enjoy the little things, because one day you’ll look back and realize these were the big things.” I believe the quote means life consists of many small moments that we can take advantage of but the big dramatic moments are few and long to come if they come, enjoy and live the small moments don’t wait on something “big,” it is often the “small” things that bring success.