Creating an Inner Peace That Endures!

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I am a typical woman with collective thoughts, and I’ve lived an extraordinary life. However, like many people, I haven’t honestly felt like I’ve been living my life. Up until a few years ago, I have been stuck in a world of darkness; I did not feel well, most of the time as I thought there’s no way of finding myself. The pain I felt often overcome me with sadness and made me longed not to feel. I often reflected upon all the things that weighed me down. Finally, I realize the hurt were NEVER mine to carry, to feel connected to everything made me feel responsible entirety.

However, after years of suffering, thank God, one morning as I found myself struggling to begin the day, I took the time to start listening to the cheerful and inspiring singing of sparrows. As I casually listen to their chirping, it echoed beautifully, and it was as if their happiness cheeping unintentionally transfers to me and I absorb their happiness. That very day, I can say I endured a unique kind of inner peace in my life that brought me a pleasing sort of joy, and I feel incredibly fortunate to have found this exceptional tranquility.

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That woman who’s been trying to change for years, but hasn’t been able to, was no longer around. I blossom into a stronger, more decisive person that rediscover herself and that became an incredible first step to inner peace. I transform into a person of my likeness – an awakening was evolving, and I felt like the fiend inside of me were released to begin living my dreams. Although it may sound a little strange, the person I was even one month ago, is an entirely different being than who I am today. Reason being there is never a time that we stop growing.

Living in this densely-populated world, there is a lot of negative energy, but if you set energetic boundaries one can deal with the rigors of life to find inner peace. Dealing with negativity can be quite a downer, mainly when you are absorbing other people’s negative energy. But before I realize the people around me brought negative energy and was just not the right individuals to be in my life, my days involved a tug of melancholy that torment me as I fought to ignore the veiled darkness. To release all negativity, I had to let go of the friends and acquaintances who dump their pessimism on me. It was not easy to learn to let go and say “no” to people who do not deserve my time. But when I found the strength to let go, to let be that was how I found this remarkable inner peace

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Creating an Inner Peace That Endures!

“We can never obtain peace in the outer world until we make peace with ourselves.”

― Dalai Lama XIV

In fact, I discover and come to know I was so wrong to believe my destiny is bound with the destinies of others. However, in return that was how I learn to truly appreciate the daylight and I understood how it removes the darkness. Nonetheless, it is our light that frightens us, not our night. The truth be told, we are all meant to find the daylight and not fear it. Although, being terrified of the daytime isn’t being broken or concealing a dark secret. It’s when one can choose to go backward to feel safe instead of forward toward growth. In this sense, there are multiple sides to all of us. Yes, there are different sides of the various personalities that exist in all of us such as who we are – who we think we are, and who we might be if we build our goals and follow our dreams.

Everyone’s journey is compelled to be different and to find the right path that best works for you are an ongoing process. One thing, my own experience has taught me is striving to discover the right path is constant. Granting, in any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing. Nonetheless, if you wait for the perfect moment when all is safe and assured it might never arrive. Despite everything, fear not, friends. We all discover things at different times.

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Develop These 7 Habits to Unlock Your Greatness

greatnessYou might wonder what makes some people superior achievers and what separates the normal from the great? However, if you are wondering if everyone created equal, and if some people are better at some things than others, most will answer the question, “yes”. However, three questions you must ask yourself to make sure you rank among-st the elite and consciously change your habits.

1. First, ask and learn what makes big achievers great.
2. Second, ask and learn what drives great achievers to challenge the odds and become legends in their own right.
3. Last, ask and know how you can unlock your greatness.

We are all born with the same potential for greatness, and carry the same capacity to become successful. The potential for greatness lives within each of us and greatness is an asset you must willfully invest in, it does not just show up with time or because you desire it. To unlock your greatness, the mindset is necessary, and you must be clear on your values. Habits determine 95% of your achievements and successful people be where they are today because of these practices.

A powerful greatness quote, “Some are born great, some achieve greatness, and others have greatness thrust upon them.” To strive for greatness, you must be willing to step out of the box and be well-rounded. Also, you must be obligated to constant learning and be prepared to step out of your own way. We were put on this earth to achieve our most magnificent self, and when we change the rules and the elements that are keeping us from greatness, we can live out our purpose, and discover habits that will lead us to greatness.

Have you ever wondered how some people live a happy and prosperous life? Now think about it, wouldn’t it be nice to live a successful life. It all begins with believing you are destined for greatness as success comes from the inside out. Greatness is not a skill you have, nor a goal you achieve. It is an inner game that is defined by your rules, and only you can claim your victory. Also, it’s a state of mind, which elevate all your thoughts in the direction of excellence and it’s the habits you develop. All left to do is pull all the weeds out of your life so you can live a better life.

There are things and peoples in your life who can keep you from achieving your true potential? Are you ready to pick out the ‘weeds’ in your life that are holding you back, smothering you and limiting you from living a happy life? These ‘weeds’ in your life that are holding you back are referred to as ‘limiting beliefs, ‘ and they hide as obstacles which allow you to make excuses, and help you believe lies that are not true. It is time to remove all ‘limiting beliefs’ that are in your life to derail you, freeze you in the past and keep you stuck to prevent you from moving forward to what you want to achieve. It is time to go ahead toward your desired outcome and live a better life.

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Life’s Short. Spend it Happy

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Life is too short, and happiness is too rare. So, why waste valuable time or feeling on individuals or things that just don’t matter or worth it? Love yourself enough to set boundaries, and after all, it’s easy to get overwhelmed with life when you are juggling between work, family and your personal needs. However, that’s when you need to take a step back and not let your emotions get the best of you.

The number one question is what determines true Happiness? Happiness can come in so many various forms that it can be difficult to define. Also, happiness can sometimes be inquired in the wrong places, like wealth, in fact; a person would be unhappy with a lot of money because of the price it brings. The exclusive way to feel happy is to begin satisfying your unmet needs. If the underlying assumption of human purpose is to seek happiness, then why is it that some seem content to wallow in misery? Even when some people are given steps to find happiness, they prefer to continue being miserable.

Stop for a moment and take the time to think have you ever wondered how to know if you’re one of these people who live in a perpetual state of unhappiness? Well, to attempt to shed light, individuals who are addicted to sadness tend to sabotage themselves just as things are going well, they almost always seem down and see the world as gloom and doom as they allow life to rob them of their joy.

Does this sound like you? If the answer is yes, you are addicted to unhappiness. It is often said that “happiness is a choice” if that statement holds any truth then why aren’t more people happy? I am not a professional counselor, I do not treat disorders or behavior, but in my experience, the perspective a person has in life is what determines their happiness.

‘Happiness’ is more complicated than most might think. Some people strive to be happy, even when they have little and some are unhappy despite having it all. Understanding happiness requires more than just simply feeling happy; it’s the combination of pleasant experiences and the great suffering that teaches you much more about how to grow up into being a happier person.

For many of us, feeling happy and finding life meaningful are both necessary. Although, you may have to choose between a happy life and finding life meaningful because being happy and finding useful life overlap. There are three types of happiness we can experience, pleasure, passion, and purpose. Understanding each and their nature is excessively prominent. Each prototype has a different effect on our well-being.

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The Lazy But Effective Way to Clean Your House!

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Everybody wants to live in a beautiful clean place — whether it’s big, small, apartment or a house — it gets dirty. And while we all don’t want to live in an unfurnished house to keep it flawlessly clean all the time, there is a smarter way to get the job done. If you are a person, who want your house to stay clean — like the tidy type, their homes are always impeccably clean; let me give you some house cleaning tips you’ll wish you knew earlier.

Sometimes keeping your house clean can seem like an endless task. Especially since cleaning is a horrible, boring, thankless job as we all have other things we’d like to be doing, stuff like investing time in a beneficial relationship, work to socializing or relaxing. If you are regularly cleaning your house, it helps to know a few quick and easy tricks that can make the entire process easier.

There’s now a faster way to clean your house, and if you want to learn them, it’s best to get the tips from a person who knows the right way to tidy up a home. First, you need a plan, the plan that involves planning in advance: then start from the top and move to the bottom, go left and then to the right. I learn the greatest mistake most people make is “zone cleaning.” “Zone cleaning,” is much too slow and involve hard work. It’s best to simplify and organize each room efficiently, but begin each task at the messiest location and move from left to right in each room.

When you move from left to right, you get things done and don’t miss anything, and you won’t unexpectedly pat the dust onto already cleaned areas. Moreover, overhaul your cleaning kit is necessary. A pro cleaner doesn’t need to carry around too many products just the right must have products. Although keeping up with the daily housekeeping can be very annoying, it doesn’t have to take up all your time.

I found myself cleaning most of the time because my house is filthy. But because I want to open up some of my time, I found myself thinking what a woman to do when she loves a beautiful, clean home but tired of cleaning behind two messy children? After all the annoying part is that after cleaning my house, with the children help it just gets dirty all over again. Yes, there were days that things got crazy and I found myself consistently follow through with the daily cleaning, but, for the most part, I was getting very frustrated to keep a nice clean house.

After, research and many studies I like to use what one would call a lazy woman guide to a tidy home: tips for individuals who hate cleaning. I’m not proud to say this, but I dislike cleaning, although I love a beautiful, clean home. Because I want my house to stay neat, I made great use of my search for a faster way to clean my house, a lazy person’s guide, so I don’t want to go crazy keeping my home neat and clean. With that in mind, here are five tips and the best methods for keeping a clean house without working long and hard.

1. Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff. I learn to stop sweating over small, petty stuff, things like the children dropping crackers or things on the floor. I train them to pick up behind themselves and throw it in the trash. When you dread cleaning (like me) even those little spots that are overlooked seem bigger than they are because I want everything to be SUPER clean.

2. Make Cleaning Fun. This is an insight that I learn from years of frustration; it helps to make the cleaning fun. I taught my children a cleaning song, “Clean Up.” put your things away. They dance and love picking up behind themselves, after teaching them this song, chores that had before been a difficult task was abruptly somewhat enjoyable, and it was the beginning of me feeling completely relaxed at the end of the day.

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3. Place the toy in the toy box and clothes in drawers. If you are tired of the clutter and looking for the secret to busting it, the secret is organization The children had lots of toys, so, the house stays full of them laying around. Things on the living room floor, coffee table and sometimes on the counter top. I allowed them to play, but teaching them to put their toys away in the toy box and the clothes away in the drawers was the best way to keep the house clean.

4. Declutter; remove what we don’t need. It’s a simple theory — but it’s hard to get rid of stuff. Especially, things that have sentimental value even when we not using it. However, with less clutter, it is a lazy woman’s dream, less cleaning.

5. Get the Entire Family Involved in Cleaning. This is one that I had to work on the most because I often do the job myself, but I was left drain and with limited time to do other things. However, getting the children involved to do age appropriate jobs was better for them and me. I was amazed at how much of a difference it made in the overall tidiness of the house to have them do the simple things.

Whether you love to clean — or don’t know what it is, — it helps to save time and frustration, along with some money on cleaning products. Moreover, for the person who is on the hunt for little tips and tricks to make the cleaning process easier; here are nine simple house cleaning tips to use for simple household pointers that anyone can use.

1. How to remove lipstick stains: A touch of lipstick can make you look your greatest, but not when it gets on your clothes. If you have a lipstick stain on your garments, don’t waste your time scrubbing at it, just spray hairspray on the stain, wait ten minutes, and then wash. It will come right out with hairspray and a good clean wash.

2. Sofa/Fabric Stains: when face with fabric stains start utilizing the removable of it by sprinkling on baking soda, let it set, vacuum it up, and you’re done. Baking soda is a fabulous and safe way to get stains and odors out of hard-to-clean fabric items. Whether you want to lose that funky manufacturing smell, fight a nasty stain or just refresh your couch, baking soda is the way to go. Also, use baking soda to remove stains from clothes by pouring a cup of baking soda in the washing machine with the wash, and your clothes will turn out even brighter and cleaner.

Finding the Courage to Love Again

 

 

When a person spends a significant amount of time searching for someone to love them, his or her first taste of love will make them sheepishly drunk, and they will find themselves wanting to get more and more involved. Nonetheless, after a period of ambiguous yes-no-maybe, it can lead to a breakup which can become an emotional roller coaster.

When we are hurt, we immediately want to protect ourselves; we don’t want to talk about it or want anything to do with anything that can remind us of the painful remembrances. Also, that individual is left with a tangled knot of anxiety, an endless battle between the brains and the heart. However, after months, even maybe a year of marinating on your pain one must fumble out of it.

The person who gets hurt tends to put up a big brick wall and a “do not enter” sign — but until they are healed as far as loving them, it will be like walking into a roadway blocked by a construction zone: messy and dangerous. Nonetheless, when you are left with an urge to be loved, you only put up walls to keep the wrong people out, but when the right person comes along, they give you the courage to love again and take down all defense barriers.

A smart person knows how to put up brick walls and remove them when he or she finds someone worth loving again. Also, this intelligent person with the walls will not sacrifice his or her liberties; they are unbreakable, and he or she will be the best thing that has ever happened to you in a long, long time. As underneath the layers of doubt and distance is a person with a heart that has been devised just for you.

The indisputable truth about getting close to someone is that you give them a part of your soul and once you do that, the person owns your heart and holds controls; you can’t help but feel butterflies when they look at you. Yet, the moment things go wrong, you are left with an overwhelming urge to run away leaving you inexplicably empty.

The emptiness leaves you feeling like you’ve been run over by a train, as you strive to step back from that ledge, it could push you over. Most of all, you are left asking yourself, “What do I do when there’s nothing but pain left inside.” Bear in mind; ‘Love’ is something that can be very complicated and it can sometimes be magic. It’s has a way of ripping out your heart and making it tough to gain back the control of your emotions.

The thing is, when ‘Love’ hit you in your heart and life knocks you down you have to figure out how to get back up to get right back on that horse that threw you hard. You have to keep going, with a desire to be stronger. You must find the courage to love again and not allow the idea that your heart has been broken before affect you. The thing is, when you hurt like no other at that moment you don’t know what you need. All you know, there is an awful pain, and your aching heart is screaming please, please, just stop!

Moreover, to find the courage to love again, you must gain back some of the control of your emotions, thoughts, and sanity, that was taken from you, but it won’t be easy. You are left with an enormous amount of angry and hurt you don’t understand yet. You are wounded without compassion and direction as you want to find a way out, and there no way you can function properly until the pain stop.

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Learning to Love Yourself!

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It is a wonderful feeling to be loved by someone else

However, the best sense of happiness and love is when you learn to love yourself

Always remember the journey to self-love begins when you work on finding out who you truly are, to love yourself

If you want to feel love from others, you hold the high power when you love yourself.

Moreover, “Love” is something that is traditionally represented as blind that is lacking sight

Furthermore, “Love” is holding hands and hugging hard, even when you fight over stupid things, you still love one another with all your might

I would say, “I Love you” are three of the most powerful words.

And hearing your partner says, “I love you” is something even better to be heard.

I recommend you don’t listen to people who can con you by saying, “I love you” with words

Judge them by their actions, not words, so that your emotional flow are not stirred

Love’s a word few know the true meaning of,

“Love” is a four letter word that can be found anywhere in the world

So keep these memories to “Love yourself.”

Because some people who lips, they love you, “Love” can be like the book that they keep on turning the pages, and you won’t be the last book placed on the shelf.

“Love yourself.” means your choice to continue to live your life to say yes to the possibilities even though other people may not approve of your decisions

To truly love yourself — inside and out, you must learn to love the skin you in, accept and take advantage of the limitless opportunities available to you and believe in your vision.

“Love” is a potent drug. When you feel it, it can hit you really hard. It can give you the feeling it is delaying time, making it seem like the entire world is still except for you two.

If you heard of this self-help proverb: We need to love ourselves before we can love anyone else. Consequently, the first step to loving yourself is to let yourself become disconnected from the world and know what you deserve and like what you do.

On my journey to learning about myself and work on my self-love, I realized I am a constant work in progress and several major truths that still resonate with me and support my particular effort.

To assist you to gain more perspective and have a territory on which to begin your journey of self-love, here are five truths to remember:

1. Never compare yourself to another person. People gain success and fail at different rates.

2. It’s okay to spend time alone. Sometimes it’s better to be alone well worth time spent to learn to love yourself

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Gabourey Sidibe: A Powerful Woman Who Turned Insults Into Gold

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Ms. Gabourey Sidibe is a talented and confident actress who grew up in Brooklyn. Her mother, Alice Tan Ridley was a special education teacher from the South. She quit teaching special needs students to sing in the subway because it paid her more money. Sidibe’s father, Ibnou Sidibe was a cab driver from Senegal. He split from Sidibe’s mother when she was 12 years of age. Gabourey Sidibe was born May 6, 1983, part-African and spent much of her youth feeling a sense of anxiety because she was mocked for being overweight, and teased about her race.

Before landing her first movie role, Gabourey Sidibe struggled to find work and her purpose. Furthermore, being overweight made Sidibe worried that she would never find her true calling. Although she desired to be an actress, to support herself, Sidibe took a job as a phone sex operator, making $15 per hour and called herself Becky. However, it was not an easy profession because she worked in a corporation where the concept of business was to sound “100 percent white.”

Looking for a life changing career, Sidibe pursued her dream when she auditioned for the role, “Precious” and landed it. That leadership role changed her life for the best; it was the role she prayed for and her life changed and took a new beginning as she had hoped.

“Precious” is a movie directed by Lee Daniels; it is a film about an overweight, illiterate teenager who has been physically mistreated by her mother and sexually molested by her father. Sidibe received an Academy Award nomination for her impressive performance in this role. Although, in the public eye, she was seen as the heavily-scrutinized woman that some loved to criticize. For that reason, Sidibe dealt with many negative comments and challenges, from people who pays attention to how she look and dress at all times. She has even faced body-shaming and slut-shaming to the right up bullying.

Gabourey Sidibe hit the public eyes when she landed the role “Precious, ” and in the spotlight, she receives all types of controversial remarks. For that reason, Sidibe dealt with many negative comments such as negative criticism of her fierce fashion sense, the color of her skin and looks.

In an interview, Sidibe was asked why she thinks she was cast as “Precious”; her answer was priceless. She replied, “I think a lot of why I got the role, “Precious,” it is not because I was like this girl.” She also replied Daniels thought that he would be employing someone who was a lot like her.” However, she explained. “it is not about being that particular character, nor has it been about living that exact life; it is about knowing how to understand such a role and being able to look at yourself in the mirror and know who you are.”

I have much respect for Gabourey Sidibe, and you have to love her on so many levels because she’s confident, she’s talented, and she has navigated her way through Hollywood, continued to stay in front and center, not letting that negatively affect her career or who she is. Although Hollywood is a place that is not so welcoming to Sibide, she refuses to be broken. She said in a statement, “if they had not tried to break me down, I would not know that I am unbreakable.”

Gabourey Sidibe is a woman who can never be underestimated. She is a powerful woman who can slap back — especially after all that she has been through and after having to overcome all the criticism about her weight. Sidibe has been resilient; she is strong, she is an inspiring female lead in a world where your sizes play a significant role in being an actress.

Moreover, Sidibe is hard-core famous and visible women who have dealt with a consistent attack of public insults. In true, Sidibe has been known to be commanding, captivating, and empowering us with her fascinating words and at times she tells her haters exactly where they can stick it.

Gabourey Sidibe has a beautiful spirit and is a woman of great courage. Very few females would be able to continue standing from the stress, pressure, and criticism Sidibe manages to overcome. She is an amazing woman, a fighter inspiring the world as an ‘Overcomer’.

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How I Learn: When Life Gets Hard, Live Through It and Grow Through It!

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When your life is “falling apart,” it is so easy to become discouraged. I have had a season of life where I felt like a big hole has open up on the earth, and I fell in and regardless how hard I struggle to climb out I just couldn’t seem to. During my road to self-discovery, I re-read a journal I wrote years ago at one of my lowest moment, and although I did not realize it then, I died a little on the inside and was reborn to rise again as a wiser version of myself. That very day I learn when life gets hard, live through it and grow through it.

As I experience feeling stagnant inside, I can remember living life as to where I felt utterly helpless and powerless as I wonder as to where my next meal is coming from and if I would have a roof over my head. Also, I have watched the person I care about the most suffer and ache with the deepest soul wounds. All the same, I also had the pleasure of thoroughly living a lavish life and as there’s nothing else for me to do but shop, overspend and give out to family and friends as they hang around just to use me for a convenience.

Like most of us, I’ve been on both sides of the fence, and I understand both needs and wants. I had no control of the outside world. However, I do have control over myself, and that gave me a burning urge that was so powerful that it pulled me out of bed in the morning during times I found myself almost too depressed to get out of bed. In all of those experiences I’ve had, I have realized how to choose the right path. Sure, there are differences of paths, but, when I narrow it down to the necessary truth, I often know the right path to take, but I often struggle with making a
choice because the route I need to take is often a difficult one filled with obstacles, unknowns, and hard work.

Through those experiences, being able to live both worlds, I have learned it is easy when you have plenty, thinking you are surrounded by love and giving when you have enough. However, when it times to deal with struggles, having little, it is hard to deal with, and it hurt like no other. It brings to all the complicated stuff life throws at you. As a matter of fact, my life felt as if I were so alone, although there were others in my life. I learned loneliness is when a person think they are a fragment instead of a whole; you FEEL lonely when you are not alone, but, now I can understand not feeling whole since I learn when life gets hard, live through it and grow through it.

Furthermore, too often we seek fulfillment from the foreman, our earnings, certain market conditions or something outside to change, but to be free to learn to live in hard times one must have a desire. My desire gave me the motivation to change my life because I had this burning desire to be successful and it forced me to identify, visualize and move my mind and body towards a particular type of life that I want to live.

After re-reading my journal, it was a reminder of how thankful I am today – I am grateful for each new day that God grants to me, a do-over a second chance. Although “I blew it years ago. I do feel that I could have saved myself a couple of years here and there if I’d just told myself, stop having so much pride, swallow and ask for help, pride gets you into debt and stops you from seeking out a solution. It is said that of all the sins, pride is the lead. I believe that to hold true value, but I was also busy wallowing in self-pity. Don’t misunderstand me it is okay to do a little wallowing, as long as it does not paralyze; my problem was I allow it to deaden me. Not anymore, I learn when life gets hard, live through it and grow through it.

For me, not knowing how to “swallow my pride” meant feeling as if I was in a ‘Battle for my Mind, a series of trains ride, through my brain, and there’s no stopping for rest or sleep. If only I had pushed my pride aside to know the core of not having to learn the hard way. Although it would have bothered me to ask for help; if I could go back in time, I would “swallow my pride,” and ask even though it would feel awkward. Asking would have avoided all embarrassment that occurred and prevents the time when I would stress, and the various concerns that prevented me from fall asleep. Now, instead of focusing on what I did not have, I focus on what I do have. That’s how I learn when life gets hard, live through it and grow through it.

Lifelong learning is the “ongoing, willingness, and self-motivated” pursuit of knowledge for personal or professional purposes. When learning how to live and grow in life, this is a lifelong habit; it is about getting in touch with fears, staying in touch with the physical feeling of doubt, embracing and welcoming and being curious about whatever is in front of you.

Life has been very hard for me yet, at the same time, it has taught me a good ordeal. I learned that I would repeatedly end up disappointed and hurt to think people will do for me as I do for them. Since not everyone has the same heart like me, I had to accept things are as they are, if I did not, I would suffer because I imagined differently. Yes, we have all faced various levels of hindrances, disappointments, and sadness, just as some have had days where they wake up wondering what will go wrong next. From those kinds of days, I learn there is just no way I can always control what happens to me. Certainly, there will be days when people and circumstances occasionally knock me down. From that, I want to revisit and discuss how I was tempted to lose hope.

A year ago, before I found peace, I would wake up feeling liveness trying to make it through the day with only a few hours of sleep and not know how to begin living. I felt as if my heart been crushed beyond recognition repeatedly. There were times when I was unsure of the decisions I made, and sometimes I was sure they were wrong choices. I even went through situations where my path was utterly unclear, and I did not know if I want to continue the next step or just walk off a cliff. However, now, I plan and know how to handle my life, and I am the first to acknowledge that when life gets hard, don’t give up, you can live through it, and grow through it.

Things got so hard and rough that I had to remind myself not to allow life and its challenges to continue choosing a negative future for me. It seems like the people I felt I need was becoming more and more disconnected with me, I felt lonely and afraid. Also, I allow the people I care about the most to affect my overall mood swing. There were times when I waited and waited. For minutes. For hours, even for days, longing to hear friends and loves one voice, but all I had was silence. Then I came to the realization I did not need to listen to their voices or excuses or what they have to say for themselves because their actions already spoke the truth

Though I felt alone and disappointed, I decided they all treat me like an option, so I left like what I had a choice. Although it hurts to let go, I knew it would hurt me more to hold on. Yes, it was one of those times I feel a sense of loss, but, I decided I WILL survive and I WILL get through this. I learn from my fear that if I let go of the things I am terrified of and step out on faith, I can live a peaceful life and, I can overcome my anxiety. I discovered from not letting go of my fear that it when I was overwhelmed. I had no idea of where to go. However, to have faith and get out of God’s way, He will help me repair the mess I made of my life and bring me out.

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Learning Life Through Trial and Error

 

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Often our daily lives are a series of behaviors played out through the day. As time passes, the world grows more challenging, and life has a way of reminding us that troubles are a tool that is given to us to mature and establish our physical capabilities. The difficulties of life have a way of telling us to stand firm when tested. It is intended to make us better, not bitter, but the trouble with life is, we’re halfway through it before we recognize it’s a ‘do it yourself’ thing.

They’re a Mexican Proverb that says…the corrupt world is full of illusions and misery. Moreover, I’ve learned that although the world is full of difficulties, it’s the way I respond to life’s tests that have a significant effect on whether I allow life’s challenges to become stumbling blocks to the road ahead in my life or a clear path to the freeway of learning and maturity. When I am distressed over challenges, the upset only help to press me down. But remember that these trials are part of the full plan toward happiness that helps you to see them as possibilities to discover your own strongest qualities and put them into effect.

Some of us have seasons of crazy schedules, and yet we are not creating the results we want. We often want what we can’t afford or need and find ourselves complaining that we don’t have enough money, the right relationship, or achieve enough that will bring joy in our lives. Furthermore, if we realize there’s nothing that we can do that will change the structure of the universe. It will assist us to feel good about ourselves and help us to appreciate what we have and love what we do.

After all, there are only two ways to live your life. One, you can live your life happily and complete and as if your life is full of miracles. Two, you can live depressed full of many regrets and as if your life needs a miracle. Man, actively search for the means to find a happy life. Just to discover, the more significance we find in life, the more comfortable, we typically feel, a happy life is defined by understanding the world’s a puzzle and we must find ways to put the pieces together without knowing what life will bring.

In our daily lives, we face many challenges, and at times we understand almost nothing of the world. As we strive to get through hard times, we sometimes allow our hearts to be a closed bundle of scar tissue. But it doesn’t have to be that way, what we must do is make it our business to stop living our life on autopilot and find ways to stop going through the motions being too cautiously, worried about what could continually go wrong. Are you worried or going through hard times? Know that whatever you’re going through, you’re not alone.

Our survival as individuals means becoming aware of a significant number of things, but, how a person perceives life depends on the clearest view of how he or she see his or herself. We should learn from our mistakes, and you may have heard these words “To err is human” and “you live, and you learn.” Although we make mistakes daily without this ability, we cannot learn from them. A lot of the problems we have in the world would go away if we talked to each other instead of about each other.

No, we’re not perfect, whether our failures are large or small without them, we may be avoiding a significant resource for finding solutions. Without answers failures, mistakes, screw-ups, and shortcomings will crush us down; they are all the necessary tools that bring an understanding of what learning is and how learning can improve us. We all are capable of learning from our mistakes — although some have the genes that may make it difficult to be taught.

Never be afraid to make mistakes because they not only make us uniquely different it sets us up to fail, and failure sets us up to be successful. Know that there are many countless lessons we all can learn from life. If we want to understand and overcome mistakes made in life; we need to examine every part of them. This necessary step will help us to become the person we are today.

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How to Get Rid of Emotional Baggage & Face Your Fears Daily

 

 

We all travel through life with baggage, but as a grown-up, it is our job to take responsibility for our emotional state. We are responsible for every area of our life, including feeling that we carry with us daily. Our emotional baggage evolves from negative experiences that are painful, and from harmful interactions that cause anger, fear and…a significant emotional reaction within us.

What is emotional baggage? It is painful memories, mistrust and hurt carried around by a person from their past —react to challenging situations like dealing with the parent who was not there for you or letting go of an ex that hurt you to your heart.

How much of emotional baggage do most of us carry around? Everybody has emotional baggage as sometimes the past inner baggage can flow out to be outer baggage in the present. Although some have more than another, some of us might have several big bags of baggage, and others may have just one tiny bag… but we all have them. Through this emotional baggage, most of us feel as if we are carrying a lifetime’s heaviest of regrets, anger, and pain.

Emotional baggage can cloud your judgment as they are very unreliable and are based on complete irrationality. They left you trapped in the past by the unhappy remainder of your own bad choices — like thinking you are not too drunk to drive home or trying to hold on to an unhealthy relationship because you are afraid you cannot do better. Sometimes bad decisions are made because we are a person who makes them on a regular basis, and the brain does not forget the bad choices you have made in the past.

Emotional baggage is stimulated by negative feelings that leave you thinking— “My life is not fair,” “”Why are things like this always happen to me,” “It is not my fault,” and “How did I end up like this?” These underlying feelings are direct emotional reactions that can lead to a desire to act out. Whether you know it or not you have the power to overcome this negative baggage from knowing where it stems from and the desire to manage painful emotions by committing to behaving differently.

For a moment, let’s look at negative feeling that we feared, the one that follows us, and lead to reaction of emotional baggage.

• You expect and look for the worst: when you focus mainly on the negative outcomes and fail to give attention to the possibility of a positive outcome, we are left open for emotional baggage.

• You act on instinct: When you fail to stop, and think, but act quickly, without considering the consequences of your actions. You are willing to expend to push some emotional rock up, which will lead to an emotional outburst.

• You allow yourself to cling to fear: that is not good because fear is one of the three strongest emotional drivers.

• We play the victim: If we want the power to get past the past emotional baggage, we must get rid of false pride because it comes between higher thought and an empowering choice.

• You disregard good advice: You must take a hard look at your habits of thinking and decision you are making because a false sense of worth limits us from receiving help from encouraging input.

To the degree that you stop all the above, you will be stuck at a standstill because these negative feelings will continue to outline who you are, the way you think, the choices you make and the actions you take if you allow them.

There are two main types of emotional baggage in a person’s life which include what he or she are aware of (excess), and what he or she are not aware of (hidden). The first baggage comes with what a person’s eye sees, but he or she chooses not to acknowledge the problem at hand. Moreover, the other baggage is the individual decided to ignore what the eyes see for some reason he or she are allowing it to interfere with his or her life, relationships, and future.

Hidden baggage

Hidden baggage, sometimes it is easy to get a false sense of security about something you may not be aware of, or if you are aware it can be easy to think that you will not be exposed and that is equally dangerous because it can sneak up on you and ambush you out of nowhere. Hidden baggage is full of tricks and can trap you into things that trigger emotional baggage like putting up with a job that works you countless hours for low wages and no appreciation. It will allow you to think a selfish person is your best friend who thinks only of his or herself.

Take a reality check

The best thing for all of us and a good start toward addressing your baggage is to carry a lighter load, which begin with tackling your baggage with a present-day reality check. When you allow your emotional baggage to lead your life are they through immediate reaction to an experience that draws anger, fear or sadness? Stop, think and analyze all your emotional feeling. Why did you react, what made you upset? Was it a fearful, humiliated or shocking event that took you by surprise? Did you overreact by what someone said or because the situation might come into effect in your life now? Alternatively, maybe the words that were said triggered something from your past. Could it be that they are painful to experience from the past that will cause you to feel or react out of proportion in fear it will affect you today?

Three Steps Process to Get Rid of Emotional Baggage & Face Your Fears Daily

  1. Write an open list of the thoughts and behaviors that will build better habits and not weigh you down.
  2. Put forth an effort to find at least one positive experience in each hurtful experience in your life
  3. Focus on creating affirmations to encourage a must needed change and counteract all negative thoughts.

Time to Let It Go!

Getting past old injustices and hurts isn’t easy, and it has a way of creeping back in your life time and time again. It is heart-tappingly easy to get trapped in the darkness of bad recalls, as it can take a radical change to get past yesterday emotional baggage. Here’s how.

First, take a close look at your life. The past has a way of trapping us through painful unexamined past hurts that clutter our mind and spill over on every corner and tabletop. It can be commandeered to your be lost in thought, obsessive to the mind to replay old losses, past injustices, nagging guilts and elbowing out the new and all the possibilities. My advice and strong urge to whoever is reading this article, take the time to right all wrongs that can never be erased, revisit any hurt from which visit you from time to time, let go of any cling to lost love, or any pain from someone else’s lies —they are emotional quicksand that will exert a strong downward pull on the soul.

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